Question

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Is this relationship working - worth saving?
Been with my partner for a couple of years.
We see each other a couple times a week no overnight stays and no sex since the start of the relationship. Those days we do meet up we usually go to the shops for their shopping or go to their parents. We also have meals out at pubs which I pay for. I also pay for any outings we go on. They say they love me but due to their health conditions they can't do much more. I enjoy their company but I don't know what to do.
So the questions are ... Is this a friendship more than a relationship and am I getting taken advantage of?

I’d say it’s a friendship not a relationship

Wait... no sex since the start...? That’s just a friend surely?

You are, very much, being taking advantage of.
This is a one-sided (on his/her terms) friendship (if you can it that) at best.
No, it is not worth saving.

Stop being taken for a mug. He is not your partner. He's just a freeloader. Run for the hills.

Are you having fun op? Are you happy? Do you love this person? Or are you still with them out of habit?
When you picture yourself in this very same scenario ten years down the line, how do you feel?
Sadly we can’t and shouldn’t try to change people. So you have to either accept things the way they are, or look for something else? Good luck.

Have you mistaken this for a relationship and the other person just sees it as a friendship? Have you even kissed or cuddled ? A couple of years and no intimacy? (that is quite rare these days - unless you both want to wait until after you are married). Seems a bit one-sided if you ask me.

I think you need to have a serious chat with this person and find out what their intentions are.

A friendship. Though clearly not even a good friendship if your coughing up all the cash. And if after all this time that’s all you’ve done is pay out then I would suggest you’re a charity. A very nice charity. But I think it’s time you resigned as the company director and do something worthwhile.

I suggest you start dating and looking for a guy you like. If you want to keep your friend, perhaps get him to pay his way. Split bills or take turns etc. Separate note I need breakfast. Really got a hankering for pancakes.

In what way is this person your partner?

I don't know if you're being taken advantage of, you choose to do this.

If there's kissing and such, then it's a relationship, if not a friendship. But you know what it is, op.

It seems like the other person's health issues mean this is how it is. So are you happy doing what you're doing or not? If not, then take a step back or end things.

Aside from the question about whether this is a friendship, or a relationship, I am shocked by those who have automatically presumed that the partner is male.

The OP makes no mention of gender, so why assume that this is a heterosexual relationship?

@xpc316e just because they say 'he' doesn't make them homophobic. Who actually cares what sex they are and if a poster makes an assumption? The OP has asked a question about 'a relationship'.