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Strained relationship

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auraaura · 10/11/2018 13:37

Dc's grandparents love them dearly but I've recently started working 3 days a week and when I go to collect them they carry on holding them. It makes me feel sick, sweaty and anxious. I'm desperate to hold them because I've missed them.

When they come over to ours and are excited to see dc, I always hand them over. "Look who's here to see you etc." And they hug etc. It's like they don't want me to pick them up.

Mil has been asking when I'm returning to work since they were 3 months old. I've been saying I don't want to think about it and she's like "but you HAVE to work." We don't. She makes me feel like she wants me out of the way. I'm becoming a self employed working one day a week after I've paid my maternity back. Gps are gonna hate it. It's just strained my rship with them and makes me want to see less of them because they're gripping so tight.

OP posts:
MMmomDD · 10/11/2018 14:23

OP - I think you are struggling with the mother’s guilt of returning to work and adjusting to being away from the children.
Your in-laws aren’t doing anything, really. Just loving their grand-kids and helping you out.

Many working mothers find it hard. At least at first.

It will get better. It does for all.
And eventually you’ll see that you are extremely lucky to have family around that is there to help.

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