if your fil was calling your child little (his dads name) how would u feel

[thegardener]

Just wondering how you would feel if your fil was calling your ds little(father's name)

wouldn't bother me TBH

I don't think I'd mind.

Is he doing it because he doesn't like your ds's given name and is making a point? Or is it just affectionate?

Once - I wouldn't say anything, twice - starting to get a bit annoyed and would use DS's proper name straight after he says little DH, third time - would probably say something like - lets not confuse the poor wee man, fourth time

things like this can really get to you when you have a new baby. i told dh to let fil know that I didn't like the nickname he gave to dd1 and he stopped calling her it

Don't think it would bother me either, although it depends on how old DS was at the time. Fine for a baby, but once he becomes old enough to have his own personality, I think I'd rather his own name were used. Unless of course it's just forgetfulness on FIL's part, when I'd just go with it and we'd all have a sympathetic smile when back at home.

Wouldn't bother me at all, if I thought it was being done in an affectionate way. I would probably just think that FIL was enjoying having a child around again, and that it was reminding him of when his son (your dh) was a little boy.

If, on the other hand, there were issues with the PIL, I'd probably start to wonder whether it was being done deliberately to wind me up!

I wouldnt care at all.

I'd be upset if he was calling him "little shit" though.

LOL VVV at "little shit"

wouldn't bother me initially, but not ok when he's older.

Not a problem.

Having said that I am starting to get fed up with DH's sisters and mother constantly saying that my DS#2 is the spit of DH when he was a baby! He isn't! DH was a weird looking baby and my beautiful DS#2 doesn't look like him at all. But I think that may refelct on the fact that DH (and his family) are starting to irritate me atm....

wouldn't bother me one bit
is quite nice when my mum or day refer to my kids as 'little hana'

It's a bit of a weird thing to do I think. The child has a name of his own. Why not use it? Bizarre. It would irritate me for sure.

isn't it just meant because he looks like him? it wouldn't bother me, unless i wasn't with the father anymore!! lol

This makes me sad - our ds was little Pat when his grandad was alive because grandad was big Pat. Every now and then we still call him lttle Pat withoug thinking and it's a very poignant moment.

My sons are both the spit of their dad, and we often do, jokingly, call them LittleX, or MiniX - or even Mini-Me (from the Austin Powers films). I wouldn't care for it if it was all the time, but for occasional use I don't mind.

Our ds is the double of my dh.

My mam calls him "Wee XXXX" [dh's name!] She means he is very like him, mannerisms & everything is the same as dh

I'm not offended!

In fact each time my mam & mil meet up they go on & on about how alike dh our ds is!

Depends on how and why he's doing it. Is he senile? Starting to go senile? Is he trying to wind you up (ie do you not get on well with him in general)? It might just be affectionate and a bit of a family thing: some people love this sort of thing, others don't.

Does he do it all the time or just occasionally? All the time would irk me.

I think it is quite sweet, very affectionate.