Having husband only 2 nights a week

[Lovelyivy]

So my husband (we’ve been together 3years) started going to gym and got obsessed. He goes there every day after work. When he comes home he is tired and barely says a word to me then fall asleep on the sofa(he says he is super comfortable there and that’s the reason why he falls asleep there). He works Monday to Friday and comes home after gym around 9pm. I work weekends and come home around 7pm. He is great on the weekend evenings. We always have sex, watch movies, laugh and enjoy each other, but I’m getting super annoyed that it’s only weekends when I’m super tired (I work 14hours shifts leaving house 4am) and I need to suck it up and barely sleep between my shifts because it’s the only time when he is in the mood. It makes me feel lonely during the week (I am home with the baby). It makes me really upset to always wait for the weekend to even just speak to my husband. Am I just overreacting?

You’re not over reacting at all. Have you told him how you feel? What’s his excuse?

You aren't over reacting, but is he actually even getting fitter? Just some men use the gym as an excuse and really they are cheating.

Do the same! Stay out for a few hours after work at the ‘gym’ and then fall asleep on the sofa.

It’s nit right or fair on you, have you spoken to him about this?

If you have a baby there’s no way you should be solo parenting till 9 every night if not essential. He should be coming home and ideally spending some time with his child! Bathtime / bedtime or just time.

He is definitely not cheating! I work in the gym he works out at...so i know he is actually there plus he used to be really into
Bodybuilding when we first met.
I told him a lot of times that I feel lonely and like I’m single 5days a week. I told him it would be nice if he would at least come to bed and have me a kiss every night (I don’t want him to give up his hobby), but he says he will do that and then nothing - back to old ways ...

I used to do exactly that at one point. I had checked out of the relationship and the situation just deteriorated over the years due to lack of communication.
If its recent then it might be a temporary phase, as working out can be addictive but sleeping separately on the sofa is not healthy and should be addressed.
It is important to let your feelings known and see if it is only fatigue or a sign of something more serious.

He and you need one spontaneous evening each week. You cannot plan it, just have to drive it.

Suggest he works out on your work days once youre home. Ask him to take tuesdays and Thursdays off body building

Or Monday and Friday off body building and he can go to gym at the weekend

So you're effectively a single parent 5 days a week.

When do you have time to yourself apart from work? If you took up a hobby after work, you'd never see each other.

These imbalances lead to resentment.

I put my child to crèche during the day for 2hours so I do gym or read a book. I have time for my hobbies. I know if I want to go out he comes home to babysit, but I prefer spending time with him so I never go out hoping he will be in a good mood and at least watch a movie with me. I feel needy