I'm so stuck on what to do and just wondering if anyone that has been through this can kinda explain what happened about their tenancy agreement....bare with me this could be a long one 😶
So me and my partner broke up officially on Sunday, it's been a long time coming and we've sat our four children down and explained that daddy won't be living with us any more. So since then he's decided to be really awkward and said that he will not stop fighting for me despite me saying he can fight for someone who doesn't want to be fought for and repeatedly telling him it's over. He's now decided he's not going to stay at his mum's so has been staying here on the sofa which is confusing the kids. So bit of a back story about why we split (I'm probably going to make this whole post confusing because my heads a mess) so I've been with him since I was 14 so 13 years had my first child with him at 16 and the followed the other 3 so for the last 10 years I've been home caring for the kids and not really having a life outside of the home. The last year I felt like my youngest (now 3) was old enough for my ex to know what his doing and I wasn't breast feeding any more and I wanted to be able to go out and see my friends a couple of nights a week, now this wasn't clubbing or anything like that it was literally going around my friends house and watching a tv series together any way to begin with he would phone me anywhere between 15-28 times a night (approx 3 hours) and I would ignore them bc it was literally just to check up on me, he got his brother to go around to my friends to check my car was outside her house, it wasn't it was parked the next road over where there was space for it and when his brother couldn't find it he would text me things like he doesn't understand why my car isn't there and can I tell him where it is with reasons like his brother needs to put a tyre in my car boot 🙄 I never told him where my car was. Eventually the calls stopped when I went out but he would send me emotionally abusive messages instead and this went on until I had a go at him about it. So he would start sending me messages during the day instead knowing I would read them. Also just as I'm about to leave sometimes he would leave the house just so I have to stay in 😑. So a lot of the arguements we had were about the lack of sex 🙄 i pointed out to him that if this is what hes like why would i want that also his personal hygine is atrocious 🤢and he would say things like can we spoon cuddle before you go out tonight which basically meant if I didn't do that I wouldn't be going out 😔. Then he accused me of having an affair and is still accusing me of that 😒 and this is why I've had enough and ended it. So we live in a council property and have a joint tenancy which is where things get difficult. Even if he says he is happy to have his name taken off the tenancy it's not gonna happen, if he cancels the tenancy in just his name it would still cancel it for both of us leaving me and my kids homeless the council have said the only way to do it is through court and it's just all complete fucking agro and I just wanna move on with my life 😔 any advice? 😕😕