When you feel like giving up...

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early 30s, no real significant relationship that's lasted longer than 2+ years, but lots of interest from undesirable men. have my own house, my own car, a great career and loving family. i am an emotionally healthy and good person.

online dating is a joke. not sure i can stomach it anymore. friends have mostly left or married so difficult going out.

surely, if i was going to meet someone, i'd have met them by now? what's going to change in the next few years when i'll only lose my looks?

how does anyone meet anyone these days?

ugghhhh just wanna give up! it's so upsetting as i want a life partner and family.

any words of wisdom/reassurance?

Erm I've had 2 long term relationships from your age until now (late 40s). Just started a relationship with an amazing man I met online. Don't give up.

Thank you @Musti. How did you meet these men?

One at work, one was my friend's family and the latest one online dating.

Hi
I had 3 serious-ish relationships before I was 30. In hindsite, they were all seriously inappropriate and I was emotional manipulated by the men leaving me insecure and lacking in confidence. I spent the next 5 years dating and meeting crappy men who messed me about. I too had a good job, own flat reasonably attractive and worried about being past my prime! I used every method of dating, friends, online family bars, new hobbies and was ready to throw in the towel.

My New Years resolution was to give up dating. But my final swipe on tinder was really fit, but he had gone home for the Christmas period so I made the exception, as we had swiped in december(!) to have our first and my last date on jan 3rd. It was the best date of my life. He really is the love of my life.

3 years on we're happily in love, married and expecting our first baby next year. It's never too late. The right person is out there for you and it'll make all the crappy terrible dates and lonely nights worth it.

I even believe meeting my husband later in life means we have a better relationship. We are more mature and better at understanding each other, we're more patient, more kind to each other and more accepting of each other's faults. Keep the faith and keep your eyes and mind open to any possibility. Good luck !!!

I need a man, gimme! Look I know we’re awesome but don’t give up because you’ve not found one yet. Sounds like you’ve got a nice life and better than many posters here who have guys who adore using their partners as target practice or emotional punch bags.

Early thirties isn’t a short hop from collecting your pension. You can meet anyone at any time. Still loads of time to start a family too. Enjoy life, do the things you love.