Please go easy on me.
So I kind of have a partner. It's a very strange set up. He doesn't live with me, doesn't contribute (as he's not long been made redundant but never really contributed before this either), we have two children together but I am basically a single parent. He goes out god knows where until god knows when then goes back to his house while I'm at my home with the kids. Flits in and out during the day. Isn't very nice to me, talks to me like rubbish quite frequently and has to apologise because he realises. We very rarely have sex. We do get on very great though and even though I really feel like ending things, I don't want things to affect our children.
So a few weeks ago my friend, who I've known for at least 8 years got back in touch. We speak on and off, going through stages of speaking everyday and then we'll both be busy with our own things then come back to each other. He's an absolutely amazing friend and has helped me a lot. I'm starting to develop feelings for him. He's single and is very much interested in taking things further. Nothing has happened, I haven't invited him round to my house or anything because I feel guilty on the father of my children and rightly so. Even on a friend's basis, if my children's father found out he would not be very happy.
It's such a strange situation but what would you do if you were me? Tell the friend I can't speak so often anymore and distance myself or have a long hard look at my "relationship"?