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So excited but no one to share it with

32 replies

Canthisreallybe · 08/11/2018 10:25

I'm desperate to tell someone so you, lovely mentors are it. I"ve nc btw because I want to be sure before I say anything to family.

Bit of background - I was married for ever, since I was a very young teenager. About 25 yrs ago H decided he didn't love me anymore, he didn't share this with me he just started being cold, uncaring and even more moody. If I asked what was wrong he just snapped so it became the norm to carry on with this.

I started to suffer with various health conditions that were really debilitating but never connected it to my situation - life just became a miserable drudge.

I'm 72 now and 2 years ago I reached my final straw, it was something quite minor in the scheme of things that tipped me over the edge and I found myself saying I want a divorce. And so we divorced, H moved out and I rattled round the house on my own. I went through some very dark times wondering if it was worth it.

So to cut to the chase, I've met someone on OLD and I can't believe how excited and happy its made me - we get on so well. We chat online for ages. It's early days yet and I've still got my feet on the ground - just about. I'm going to savour this as long as it lasts.

So lovely netters who have kept me sane, helped me laugh in the dark lonely times, educated me on the perils and successes of OLD - wish me luck.

OP posts:
sachabloom · 08/11/2018 20:58

Good for you OP xxx

Lovinglifemostly · 08/11/2018 21:03

How lovely. Just enjoy yourself OP. If it does go wrong at least you tried.

Canthisreallybe · 09/11/2018 18:53

I don't think it's going to last, he's in a mood with me
how can you get in a mood with a stranger on the internet fgs
and it's put me right off.
I'd forgotten how fickle I could be. Smile

OP posts:
Ginger153 · 09/11/2018 20:40

See how you go. Chatting online, it's easy to get crossed wires. Enjoy the journey and being outward looking again. You're not being fickle, just exploring your options! Good luck x

mcmooberry · 09/11/2018 21:14

Woo hoo that's great news! I hope you get on even better in RL and in the meantime enjoy the banter!
I did OLD for a while before I met my DH (via OLD) and my debrief to friends afterwards often went " Everything was going wonderfully...….and then I met him!"
Keep us posted!

Footle · 10/11/2018 08:38

Fickle? I hope that word doesn't indicate that you're taking the blame for his bad mood! Drop him like a hot brick if you're having doubts. You've served your time with a man who turned nasty.

What else is good in your life that you can build on?

EmmaGeddon · 10/11/2018 10:15

If you've met one person online you've had good rapport with, there will be others.

I echo other posters though - chemistry online often doesn't translate into real life unfortunately.

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