Winding each other up on WhatsApp - Red Flag?

[TooOldForThis67]

Hi
So, 8mths into a relationship that has been tested quite seriously from the start - STD, Menopause and death of my Dad. I also live with my STBX (finally leaving in a matter of days) and have a young son with Autism. I've been at breaking point many times. My b/f has been lovely most of the time. He split from his partner almost a year ago and has had issues with money and seeing his kids. We have supported each other. HOWEVER, why do we always wind each other up on messenger? I seem to take everything the wrong way and am super sensitive. Most of our messages contain the words, FFS or FO! I'm always ending it. It sounds really childish I know, but we can't seem to break the habit. When we talk face to face it's completely different, we get on great. I'm not like this with anyone else.
Before anyone suggests talking on the phone, I really struggle as am hard of hearing even with hearing aids.
Apologies if this all sounds trivial but I'm beginning to question our relationship. Would it be petty to sit him down and go through some of our messages so I can explain ?

What Pouch said. I would not stay in a relationship with someone who messaged me with such hostility and passive-aggressiveness. And I do mean yours, OP, as you seem to be the initiator.

You tried to correct him on the weather. I couldn't be bothered. But I hope you work it out.

Maybe it's not relationship time, OP. Sounds like you could do with some 'you' time. I mean, looking at the messages, it sounds kind of sad, exhausting, fed-up... like it's all such hard work. Neither of you sound like you're uplifted by each other. You both come across as having too much hassle in your lives and when you communicate it sounds like, "Oh what the fuck do YOU want on top of everyone else?" Why burden each other with it? Who needs an up and down, passive-aggressive relationship? Do you really want a relationship right now or is it to fill a void?

You've only been dating for 8 months - I don't see the point of being in a relationship that's so much hard work. It doesn't matter who is at fault or why it happens - the problem is that it happens.

I'd split and stay single for a good while.

Sorry about your Dad 💐

Thanks Long , you are right. I basically need to stop looking for the negatives and stop thinking everyone is taking me for a ride. I think it stems back to dating MM and a few other users. My b/f isn't like them at all repeat until it sinks in.
I'm so glad I posted on here. Seeing the harsh reality comments-of this situation has helped. x