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Relationship break down

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6079SmithW · 07/11/2018 23:14

I'm on holiday with DP until Saturday.
Our relationship is breaking down (I think we both knew it was the case before we left but somehow thought we could revive things).
I feel so lonely and a bit hopeless. Everything seems to hurt so much more given that we are away and supposed to be being romantic/relaxing/enjoying ourselves.
I've looked for earlier flights home but tomorrow was sold out and Friday was way out of my price range.
What should I do in the meantime? I'm wondering if would hurt less just to do our own thing for the next couple of days? Or should we continue to be together until we get home and break up then?
In my opinion DP is already acting like he is here on his own anyway (very selfish) which is/has always been part of the problem.
Please help, if only just to make me feel like less of an idiot 

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Redskyandrainbows67 · 07/11/2018 23:17

Ah holidays are always make or break

What kind of holiday is it?

Set up a plan of activities you want to do to get yourself through to Saturday. Be prepared to do these alone but offer him the chance to do stuff together.

Read lots of books - the storylines will distract you!

6079SmithW · 07/11/2018 23:19

I should add, I am totally in love with him despite his being abusive (verbally/emotionally). I know the relationship has to end but it hurts so much.

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Butterymuffin · 07/11/2018 23:22

Yes, plan to do your own thing. Doesn't sound like it would be at all relaxing together - at least if you're alone you don't have the tension. Work out a schedule, maybe swim so far, walk on the beach, go and read on a sun lounger etc?

6079SmithW · 07/11/2018 23:22

@Redskyandrainbows67 We're on a city break. He is showing no signs of being interested in the art/history/culture of the place, and his constant negativity is really draining.
I think I would feel better just being on my own (although obviously it would hurt). At least then I would get to have a good time without feeling lacking.

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6079SmithW · 07/11/2018 23:25

Thank you @Butterymuffin.
It's a shame because it's a city I've always wanted to see. Now I already know that my memories will be marred by it being the 'break up holiday'.
I will just plan my own days from now on.

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Aquamarine1029 · 08/11/2018 03:14

Enjoy yourself on your own, and then give your head a serious wobble. You love a man who is verbally and emotionally abusive? Really? Go home, get rid of him, and get into therapy.

6079SmithW · 08/11/2018 17:01

I know it sounds stupid @Aquamarine1029
My problem has been that every time I confront him about it, he says he knows that it's his fault, he doesn't mean it and will try not to do it again. Because I feel so strongly about him I have use clung to the hope that he will be better. He always is for a while and then it just creeps back in.
Now I just need to harden my resolve and see it through.

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Aquamarine1029 · 08/11/2018 17:21

He's only telling you what you want to hear so you'll shut up. End of.

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