DH enjoys me crying ?

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Anyone else DH/DP seem to enjoy taking care of them when they cry a bit too much. I get the vague feeling he's happy or find it entertaining ....

Do you mean he enjoys making you cry? Or that when you're upset about something else that he enjoys conforting you, to the point that it feels a bit much? Or that he smirks/laughs at you when you're upset?

What about his behaviour makes you feel that?

@SendintheArdwolves difficult to explain. He doesn't make me cry. It's just when I'm feeling really overwhelmed he smiles at me and comforts me like he's been waiting forever to do this... maybe it's just me. Just feel like he likes comforting me a bit too much .

Maybe he just likes feeling needed? Especially if you're crying over something not too serious?

(sorry I'm not sure what you mean by "overwhelmed" - could be overwhelmed with emotion at seeing a sad story on the news, or overwhelmed with stress due to work/health/family.)

Hmm. It sounds like your spidey senses are tingling, and that is something that you should listen to. You are the one who is experiencing the behaviour and it is bothering you - if you think there's something "off" or a bit much about it, then there probably is.

We can say "that sounds fine, can't see the problem, he's probably just really nice" but you're the one who is there, and it bugs you.

I don't want to tell you to ignore your instincts OP - they're usually pretty smart.

Maybe he thinks you are sweet when you cry and wants to be needed and comfort you. A lot of men want to be the protector and comfort a woman, it’s pretty normal. As long as he’s not the one upsetting you.

My girlfriend is a 'walls up' type. She's very good at bottling emotion. Of course I hate it when she feels sad, but there's also a closeness I feel when she lets the barriers collapse and cries with me.

And she's a strong woman, she's excellent in her career and a powerhouse at giving her kids their best life. I'm heavily attracted to that but yes... I like to feel that little bit of being 'needed' for comfort.

So your criticising your husband for comforting you ? Would you rather he did nt or you can stop crying. You are part of this dynamic

Do you cry very often, for you to have noticed this? Are you happy in your relationship? Is he making you cry?
(Just asking, because I think the last time I cried with DH present was last year 2017, when my father had a heart attack)

Well if you are an emotional type you probably have to put up with the there, there dear don't worry slightly patronising support.

Sorry if I'm de-railing this slightly but one (maybe two!!) of my exes actually found me crying a 'turn on'. Very strange.

Maybe it's the vulnerability thing?

Anyone else or are my exes just weirdos?

What do you want him to do when you cry??

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My DH isn't very good at handling it when I het upset, he finds it hard to deal with, and worries about saying the wrong thing. But that's okay by me as I actually prefer to be left alone when I'm upset, so I would probably find it uncomfortable if he tried too hard to comfort me.

I understand why it might make you uncomfortable if he seems to enjoy comforting you too much. I would hate that tbh.

Hmmm I meant 'get' not 'het'!!

Dacryphilia is a legit fetish, if that's where you were coming from.

Otherwise, he might just enjoy feeling needed like the hero of every romantic movie.