How do you leave a relationship when your riddled with anxiety?

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Hey,

So I'm in a negative relationship that I need to leave. It means going back home with my 3 year old daughter and starting again and I'm so scared I'll regret this and I'm full of anxiety! Please help, I'm loosing my mind x

I recently did just this with my dd and my anxiety has improved completely and I am in the best place mentally that I’ve been in for many years. Once you make the leap I’m sure you will find the same. Good luck x

You take it as an opportunity to grow as a person, find out how strong you really are and have new adventures :) if the relationship isn’t working then you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Can I ask what you mean by ‘going back home’? Where have you been living if not at home? Do you mean your parents’ home?

@Koko12 - do you mind me asking how old your DD is? Has she adjusted ok?

@SlipperyNettle - I currently live in my partners house and always have. Going back home would mean going to my mums until I sorted a home of my own.

I'm 30 and I worry so much I won't meet anyone else, share a home and have more children! Is that really stupid?

Thanks xx

Try not to think too far ahead-what will be will be.If you meet the right person in the future to expand your family with then great but if not it’s better to be alone than remain in a relationship that is not right for you.my dd is 8 and I am in my mid-thirties,it was difficult at first for her but with some counselling quickly came out the other side and we are both much happier now I am out of that situation and that I am happier.hope that helps.

I am so happy that you have decided to leave rather than other people telling you to "leave", "get out". But before you leave the relationship , you need to have an exit plan, stick to it, don't share it with anyone who will talk you out of it, only inform those who love you and care for you, let them know that you are to exit the relationship, so that they can give you all the support, love and attention you need when you exit. Trust me, you need all the energy and strength to put this together, it will be worth it as long as you stick to it. You're not starting again, this is a new improved chapter in your life. Don't give up hope.

Hi i did this when i was 25 and at the time i had 2 children age 6&8 i had to move in with my mum for a while but i was the best choice im so happy i did it ,im now re married & have had 3 more children x

@Angelkd - how old were you when you met your new husband and how long were you back at your mums for?

I met him 6 months later i stayed at my mums for 11 months ,my boys had the bed and i had the floor, i was also working so was stressful at the time.my ex gave me nothing so i had to start again from scratch that was the hardest part but i was much happier when i left even tho i had nothing i had my children and thats all that i cared about x

Perhaps you need to realise that your anxiety is so bad because you're in a dead end relationship. Get out and move on.