Found out he hadn't ended thing with ex

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Started chatting online to guy I knew back in July, he said he was single straight away things got flirty and he asked me out, so we started dating, he's shown that he's really keen on me and was in constant contact pretty much.

I hadn't really told anyone about us due to work we know slot of same people but at weekend I told a friend immediately she told me he was still with his ex and they def hadn't broke up, I immediately called him out and ended it and he's spent while weekend trying to tell me I'm wrong, I shouldn't listen to gossip and should speak to him and that it's totally untrue etc.

So friend told this ex yesterday and understandably she's very upset, I messaged her and apologised and said I honestly didn't know and would never of gone there if I had etc and that I had ended it with him... she asked a couple of questions about dates etc, thanked me and said she was done and blocked and deleted him.

He's reaction has been awful he went from grovelling for me to believing him, calling me fucking cunt and lier when she found out to totally blanking me.... is this reaction normal?

I'm 100% done with him though it hurts a little, he certainly acted like he was really into me, I'm just trying to get my head around his behaviour

Sorry op I imagine you must be upset, but he's acting the way he is now because he has been caught out and has lost both of you.

Hope you find someone decent soon op.

You've done the right thing. Just try to move on from it now and if I you get any more drama tell the pair of them to get lost.

Know your right just hurts that he went from grovelling to total silence and I'm left hear wondering if he's now chasing her... not that I would ever get back with him

Guess it's just the rejection feeling and hurt pride

Not much advice but good on you for doing the right thing. He sounds horrible, steer clear.

he's a Rat that's been trapped into corner... by his many many LIES

That's really crap, OP. I hope you and the other woman both manage to steer well clear and teach the idiot a proper lesson.

You shouldn't feel bad, this all reflects badly on him.

He lashed out because no matter how awful he was, he has somehow justified it to himself. He can't stand the feeling of shame when she called him out and he's annoyed because his good fortune has turned (he has gone from two girlfriends to none) so in his addled brain he has decided it's your fault. Then he will say it's her fault. Then your 'meddling friend' who told his ex. No matter what it won't be his fault...

Sorry you went through this but keep doing what you're doing -

Setting your own standards and sticking to them
Being classy and kind
Trusting

Thank you all think that it is I'm just more angry and annoyed with him.

He went from almost convincing me it wasn't true to then calling me a fucking lier etc To total radio silence

So I'm sat here think ok so he isn't talking to me so does that mean he's talking chasing her? Not that it actually matters but still makes you feel a bit shitty

My mate seems to think that she may forgive him, I hope she doesn't as he deserves to lose both of us but if she does then that's her problem because she's seen the proof and all the messages of him denying being with her and how he doesn't care what she thinks there relationship was etc

I'm not to bad and I will get over it, just angry and hurt pride at moment

Yes that reaction is normal from a guy who wanted to have his cake and eat it yet got called out.
He has no respect for you or his "ex".

Why haven't you blocked him like his Ex did? It seems you were still hoping for something.

You ascertained he was a liar by speaking to his Ex.
..he's pissed off because he's lost you both...I'm not sure why his reaction is bothering you.

He's a cheating liar and refuses to accept responsibility or consequences for his actions.

You're well rid.

Oh I have blocked him on social media

I'm not hoping for anything, I'm just annoyed at present because of situation, guess I'm just going to go through all the emotions

He's a prick and you're well rid of him. It's really hard and hurtful when someone lies and deceives you, but you can go on to better things and he won't. He will just keep being a tosser and misleading women.

I went through similar years ago, apart from the cheating bloke never even got to the stage where we even went on a date (just lots of texts and plans as we couldn't synchronise our rosters for the moment). He told his wife I was a stalker who was obsessed with him. She didn't believe him but couldn't prove it, so rang me. I forwarded all his texts to me. I never spoke to her again, but I know she left him.

OP he's a rat. Shut the door on him. He was worthless. Try and put him out of your life and move forward. He most likely is trying to lie his way back into her life. If she's stupid enough to let him it's her mistake to live with. You did the right thing. I'm sorry he was such a let down.

Its horrible because if he has been begging her (and yes, of course he has) it means that you didnt mean that much to him. And of course the fact that he was begging you means she doesnt mean that much to him either, and I really hope she works that out. Men like that are only ever in love with one person, and thats the person who stares back at them out of a mirror.

Its hard, accepting that you have been played by a player. It makes you question your judgement and self worth, but you shouldnt. As soon as you found out you ended it, you showed yourself to be above reproach. Hopefully his ex will bin him off too and you will both move onwards and upwards from this dickhead.