Cold people

[auraaura]

When you're trying to be friends with someone and they're cold back to you.

I'm not clingy. Why else would they stick up their nose? I don't get it.

They're not right for you.

Keep on trying to sound out different people; you'll find someone who will be warmhearted back. Remember we are all so different; some people are more secure than others and will gladly engage in conversation with you. Others, are less secure and will find taking with a different person quite an uncomfortable experience. Good luck and don't despair.

They just don't want to be friends, and that's OK. They don't have to spell out why.

How long, and why, have you been trying?

Or do you mean loads of different people?

I think I'm probably a bit cold.
Not because I stick my nose up, I'm just not all that friendly.
I mean, I'm not unfriendly, I'm just happy in my own company and don't need friends, so probably come across as a bit cold.

I'm like deydododatdodontdeydo . I don't need friends and don't seek them out. I don't stick my nose up, but I don't respond when people try to befriend me. I'm introverted and just like my own company.

Maybe you are putting the person off by trying too hard ? It's difficult to say since you don't give much detail.

Cold people never like me but warm people do. Cold people also like warm people. I don't know what people I am?

I'm in a group of girls. 2 of which are my friends but the other girls don't make an effort even though I do.

For example one of girls has been off with me on mat leave. I organised every walk and every outing. I got fed up in the end because it was one sided. If something was up with her , I'd message , we'd talk , I'd help her out, she'd be grateful etc. When I was going through something or had an appointment , she never asked how I was. I stopped organising and we haven't done anything since.

We're in a group together on whats app and she posts pictures of her lo on regularly and I comment because it's polite to do so and I think she is cute. However if I post a picture I get nothing.

I don't get people like this. They want to hang out but can't/won't make the effort. Why?

They don't see you as a friend, just an acquaintance/friend of a friend to do activities with.

Which is fine, don't try to push them into something they don't want.

It's hard when you want a reciprocal friendship but there's no point trying too hard. There are plenty of other people in the world to befriend.