Ive been with my boyfriend for 18 months now. It’s different to any relationship I’ve been in, things are different but in a great way! However, I’ve never dated someone who was married previously or had children. So I’m not sure if this is normal behaviour or I’m annoyed for no reason?
Boyfriends ex seems to “need him to do things” at her house all the time. Changing lightbulbs (seriously?!), broken washing machine, the kids are acting up, changing the loo roll (probably an exaggeration!). These things only seem to arise though if she knows me and him have plans. He will say we are having an evening away so he won’t be available, then all of a sudden, an emergency will arise and it will be made such a big deal about by her that he will have to go, resulting in our plans falling through. This has happened on a few occasions and I’ve reached the point where I no longer want to make plans to go away anymore.
I guess I’m just wondering if this kind of behaviour is normal of an ex who has children, or if she’s doing it because she either wants him back, or just doesn’t want him to be with someone else so he can always be available to her as and when she sees fit.
I don’t want to break up with him, he makes me happier than I’ve ever been, but this is taking a toll on me and he’s such a nice person that he doesn’t think anything is wrong and he just wants to help all the time.
After reading other threads on here, I feel like I have to clarify that I am not the OW, they had been apart for over a year before I met him, and we took our relationship very slowly at the start.