Accepting an apology

[OldChair]

Someone I know said something that really hurt me. This isn’t the first time such a thing has happened, but the first time in a number of months. It used to happen a lot this thing that’s upset me but not for ages and I thought it was in the past that sort of thing.

I don’t want drama and would like to be on good terms eventually but I’m still hurt. I don’t want to accept their apology just yet but don’t want to burn the bridge either. I just don’t want to move forward unless things change for good this time.

I’m not trying to play games I genuinely am still upset.

Wwyd? They have said sorry four times now so it’s in my court

I can’t stop feeling that I’m being churlish for not accepting the apologies but don’t want to either

Just tell them you're working on it.

I don't really feeling accepting an apology means that you just forget it.

You can, in my opinion, accept and appreciate the apology but still need time to work through the upset.

Saying “sorry” doesn’t absolve someone when they repeatedly say/do something that they know upsets you.

If life worked like that, we could all go round saying and doing whatever we liked and just saying “sorry” afterwards, because that word “sorry” makes it all ok

You’re not being churlish. You’re hurt, upset and angry, as this person knew you would be when they said this thing that they have said before.

Tell them you’re not in a place where you can accept their apology yet,

Just text them this changing ‘them’ to ‘you’

*This isn’t the first time such a thing has happened, but the first time in a number of months. It used to happen a lot this thing that’s upset me but not for ages and I thought it was in the past that sort of thing.

I don’t want drama and would like to be on good terms eventually but I’m still hurt. I don’t want to accept their apology just yet but don’t want to burn the bridge either. I just don’t want to move forward unless things change for good this time.

I’m not trying to play games I genuinely am still upset.*