I'm trying to find a new man..

[DizzyBeeme]

Hello all,
I got fivirved over 2 years ago..I'm trying to step back into the world of dating but finding it very hard . I am trying OLD amd am attending a siges event on the weekend..ive been ghosted...dated complete duds..and generally not had much.luck in the romance dept!! Other people say i am stunning to look at.. so what on earth am I doing wrong ladies..also..I'm a single mum to 4 young kids.. I'm 41..do u think that is what is putting men off...help with any ideas...

What's wrong with just smiling and saying hello. I've met some nice people in Aldi and Boots .

Well four young kids would put me off, but not everyone so it's not necessarily that.

I smile and say.hello to everyone I meet..it's got.me nowhere so far !!

I think OLD is just very hit and miss really. For everyone. There’s an OLD thread that runs on here, so you could have a look at that.

Lots of men will be put off by the 4 young kids, but they obviously aren’t right for you anyway. Others won’t be.

I think the only thing you can really do is to work on being happily single but open to people who might come along.

Stunning to look at isn't necessarily good either. You probably frighten the nice men off! Then the posse of 4 anklebiters arrives!

Looks don't really matter. I'm a model and was single for years and found it hard to find someone I clicked with. You can attract men initially but there has to be a spark and have depth.
I had three young kids and it did put men off, but they weren't right for me anyway as I needed someone who would fit in with our family.
I have met someone now and had another child with him and he was worth the wait. You can't rush these things, but still be proactive.

Just have fun with it casually. Relationships are, generally, overrated and, quite frankly, I'm surprised you have the time and energy for it with four young kids.
Shift the focus back to you and the kids.

At risk of sounding dumb, what is 'fivirved'? I couldn't find it on google. Seeing some kind of new light?

fivireved I think the OP meant divorced.

I think it's 'divorced' typo.

Op I am older than you and been doing OLD for 6 months. Also have 4 kids. Met a few nice men but no-one i would want anything serious with and all of a sudden I am with the most amazing man ever. Early days bit match on every level like never before. However, I was happy single so would only want a relationship with an amazing guy. The way I played it was just talking to guys I liked and treating them as a new friend and seeing if anything developed. Made some friends too.

Bit obvious the OP means divorced, im male 22 single if you wanted to talk OP (pm me) (sorry if not allowed new here)

What is OLD btw?

Relationships aren't overrated if you're with the right person and happy. It's what makes the world go round!

Sorry that was a typo..I meant divorced..OLD
.mean on line dating...investor 567 you are far too young xx

@Investor567 OLD = online dating

Thank you for clearing that up i read a few other forums and thought whats that 😂 thank you though

Hmm Investor - is your name Tomasz by any chance? Mercedes goes like a rocket?

@singlenotsingle, nope im not Tomasz sorry :(

Sorry for hijacking your thread :)

OP, just have fun. I have a collection of children and animals, and dating is just like a hobby to me. It's just another thing I do, not always good admittedly. But I have made some friends along the way. Although at the moment, I'm in a relationship, it has been 6 months, but I'm still at the seeing where it goes stage, mainly due to an age gap.