Any whatsapp experts around?

[Whowhatwhere99]

What does it mean if there's a chat in your chat list for a particular contact but no message content when you click on it? I can see the preview of the last message received in the chat list but it appears completely empty when I click on it

Check to see if he's got backups on. If he has you can uninstall and then reinstall Whatsapp and it should bring them back, I think.

Don’t want to mess with his phone to that extent tbh Baroness, trying to play cards close to my chest for now and would worry he would know it had been messed with.

Have already dropped things into conversation and got nothing much from his reaction, he just seemed disinterested which could mean something or nothing.

Sounds like a glitch then! If the message was there it would appear when you open the conversation. My whatsapp has been playing up the last few days, showing people as typing when they are offline ( I'm sat with the other person to witness this!)

If you have suspicions, which you do otherwise you wouldn't be checking then keep an eye on the chat. If you click on her name at the top of the chat and go to media, you can see any images they may have exchanged.

I really hope it is a glitch, he’s pretty open with his phone (although I don’t usually check anything on it) so it just worried me that he may have tried to delete this individual chat in order to hide something.

I am going to keep an eye on his phone, see whether there’s further conversations (I wonder if the preview I can currently see will disappear if they chat again?) and check the media thing and some other stuff I found when googling, who he messages most on there etc. Trying really hard to play the long game, and also not to jump to conclusions, thing is if there is anything in this he has completely and utterly lied to me about who he is so I have to know for sure.

If he's deleting the chat she won't show up on his frequently contacted list & any pics/videos will be deleted when he deletes the chat.

That’s what’s weird whiskey, if he was properly deleting I would never have known there ever was a conversation, if he’s done anything he’s cleared the chat rather than deleting properly and I don’t understand why he would do that if he’s trying to hide something, unless he’s even more clueless with WhatsApp than me!

There’s a way to check who you message most often through the data and storage option in settings and I don’t think that info is affected by whether the chats are deleted/cleared so will see what that tells me. Not looking forward to having to surreptitiously check his phone again, it knocks me sick to know I’m capable of invading his privacy like that but he has form for lying (not cheating of any sort as far as I know) and, as a result, I know I will struggle to trust that he’s telling the truth if I confront him with little or no evidence.

We’ve both put a lot of work into rebuilding the trust between us and generally I choose to trust him these days (lies were a long time ago and the face-saving sort rather than anything really bad) and don’t let myself get paranoid about things but I’d be lying if I said there wasn’t a small alarm bell going off this time although I can’t put my finger on why.

Maybe cleared it if there were lots of large images or something? My DH has cleared chats before to free up space (and not all chats, often just our family one!)

I've just cleared the media (but not the messages) from my group chat & it's now dropped down to second place on my data storage settings so deleting the messages does affect it.

Has he maybe clicked clear chat by mistake but thought he's clicked delete chat if he's been in a rush?

Can you just confess to snooping and ask?

That’s what I’m wondering whiskey, whether he meant to delete and cleared by mistake, not good if that’s the case as he doesn’t seem to delete anything usually. I didn’t realise that about the data and storage info

It would seem the most logical solution wouldn’t it lofty but, due to past issues, I won’t have any confidence he’s telling the truth so it seems kind of pointless. We had an (unrelated) incident recently and tbf he reacted completely differently to how he would have in the past, stayed really calm and answered my questions without getting defensive or upset so maybe (I hope) I’m misjudging him but learning to trust him again is an ongoing process and it appears I’m not quite there yet.

When you delete messages it goes into an archive first. Have you checked that? On the messages list just swipe down - the archive folder will appear

If the chat has been archived it doesn't show up in the chat list.

OP is it an iPhone or an android? There are slight differences in the app on each operating system.

It’s android whiskey.