I hate my SIL

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She is a fucking pain in the neck.

Thinks she’s given birth to the second coming and the spare, is competitive, bullying, manipulative and an all round robber of joy.

AIBU to pretend she doesn’t exist?

I think, unless you absolutely have to acknowledge her existence, ignoring it is probably the best way forward.

YANBU. I like to pretend my SILs don't exist either. When I'm forced to interact with them at gatherings, I'm polite out of respect to my DH, otherwise I don't know them.

Trouble is that DH is very close to his whole family. He does acknowledge that SIL is annoying and sympathises to a point but ultimately they are his family.

But frankly I wish she would just FOTHFSOFAFOSM

What's the spare?

The heir and the spare

She seems to think they are destined to be royalty and beyond

If she’s that infuriating, just spend as little time with her as possible.
Between work, seeing your own family, friends and sport/hobbies, you should be able to get it down to about once a month.

I did just that. My sil doesn’t like me or my sisters although we’ve never quite worked out why. But she’s been sil for 20 years and I tried for the first 3 or 4 years, then gave up. Life’s too short. She does her stuff, we see dB occasionally, what she thinks doesn’t really matter. Bit puzzling but can’t be helped.

You want to know what a horrible sil is I will tell you. 🤣🤣🤣 called me a fat bitch on my wedding day.

Accused me of ending her marriage when I was 13 and did not know her or my husband.

Accused me of killing her mum who had cancer.

Called my children ugly.

Blamed me for her lack of relationship with her husband. Yeah I know why

Acvussed me of stealing her brother my husband.

Sent me baby brochures months after we miscarried at 16 weeks. And then laughed at me.

Ruined our very small family only at my parents house engagement party by howling and crying and slagging my husband off to all my family. However my family just laughed because they are chill.

Berated me for not inviting my 21 year old niece to a 4 year old birthday party.

Took the piss when my granny died liteally in front of everyone.

Refused to come to the wedding (yay) but then turned up in combat gear heavily pregnant.

Called me fat and ugly multiple times.

Biggest mistake she ever fucking made was to slag my mum off... mammys are out of bounds do not cross that line and she did.

Got drunk multiple times in public a d our home but that's acceptable because she is middle class with a high paying job and we are just scummy ad I am a sahm.

We are nc contact 3 years on. Didnt even ever ask hubby let him decide what enough was to him as she is his sister.

I could go on and on but just thought I'd list some for you so you know your not alone 🤣🤣🤣🤣 turns out she hates me because I am 12 years younger than her. And she is about of a Trollope and hates the fact I have only ever been with my husband. (Got lucky fell in love for the first time it's worked out 17 years later) been really amazing the last 3 year's apart from his cancer which he is fighting and she knows nothing about.

Bug good luck with it all you have my sympathy xx

SILs can be tricky. I'm mostly fortunate in mine, though we're on opposite sides on virtually every issue. I hate her views on politics, she's very pro-Brexit for one thing. We're both Christians, but she's very black and white so is very much anti choice and anti same sex marriage.

They also homeschooled their DC through primary school because they didn't want them to be taught sex education at that age.

We fell out badly when DH and I went through IVF, because she said we shouldn't do it because of the 'spare embryos'. (There weren't any, as there weren't any eggs.) She dared to say this despite the fact that she at that stage had 4 DC (they have 5 now.) She pushed the idea of adoption to us as well. We did adopt in the end, but it was none of her business.

We do get on now, but I think it's helped by the fact that we live a long way from them and only see them 3 or 4 times a year. Our DDs have stayed there a few times for sleepovers, and they love their cousins, so it has led to us having a much better relationship in recent years.

But some of these SILs sound really horrible, so you have my sympathy.

Urgh! Tonight’s drama is that her PFB has been rushed to hospital with a cold. Was seen by a doc then immediately dismissed without so much as a prescription for antibiotics.
But according to SIL, PFB “nearly died”. 🙄

Even MIL thinks SIL needs to calm the fuck down

Lizzie Sorry if I'm being stupid but how do you have IVF with no eggs?

Hate is a very strong word. Why does she affect you so much?

She probably doesn't give you a second thought, yet you've started a thread about her here.

You're giving her a lot of headspace. Her rushing her child to hospital should not affect you.

SandyY2K, she affects me because she is in constant competition with me and DH, and is very vocal about it too.

For example, we’ve just bought a house in a nice part of town after renting for many years. SIL’s first reaction was to say how ridiculously expensive the area is for “not very nice houses” and that she hoped her children would “have more sense when they grew up.”

You are quite wrong to say she doesn’t give me/DH much headspace. Everything we do she has to top.

Tonight, DH got a promotion which he rang MIL about earlier. An hour later, SIL rushes her child to A&E. With a cold. Which the doctor dismissed without treatment.