Splitting up with partner

[Kiwibump12]

Hi everyone

My partner and I have been together for around 3 years, in this time we have one child, a mortgage and a puppy. Things haven’t been right for about a year and today I just had enough. He’s not a terrible person, nor am I. I just feel we’re not a match... we argue a lot, we blame each other for everything, it’s toxic. I’m sick of living my life miserable. My fear is he is the person who makes the income to sustain houses/cars so once we seperate up I truly am on my own with every financially which scares me. I’m suffering from PTSD and severe anxiety which is all heightened now.

I actually don’t know what I’m trying to achieve by writing this,...just wanting someone to relate to I suppose.

Can any family help you kiwi?

Could you not try couples counseling? Sounds like everything has happened very quickly and having a baby can put a lot of stress on a relationship. Just seems a shame to give up without trying at least.

Family can help, but I’ve not told them yet. I have a strange relationship with my family and don’t feel 100% comfortable telling them yet.

We always thought about that but honestly this has gone on so long I’m not sure if it will help if not, although I’ve typed it like this has come about quickly it really hasn’t. I’m not even 100% sure I would want to give it a go. I don’t even know what I want to be honest, I’m getting an overwhelming urge just to run away and not look back. (Which of course I won’t do anyway since I have a child)

I’m not even 100% sure I would want to give it a go. I don’t even know what I want to be honest

Maybe give counseling a go, nothing to loose right? But maybe everything to gain?