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Is my partner mentally draining me? Or is it PND?

8 replies

bexxboo · 04/11/2018 14:34

For some reason, I cannot stand my partner 90% of the time. He is constantly commenting on me and my life, that I should get a job, that i need to get out the house, that I need to be happier. Please bare in mind he doesnt have a job, or any money, he doesnt have a phone, a bank account, a drivers licence etc.
I feel anxious when im around him, like REALLY anxious. I act so moody and im always gritting my teeth and holding my breath. Im constantly having to reassure him there's no one else. I was so depressed the other day i broke down in tears, and he thought it was because I had cheated on him! He goes through my phone all the time, reads my messages, checks my call log, my snapchat, my internet history, and will ask 'why do you delete your internet history?' 'Why do you delete messages from your phone?' He makes me feel like im actually cheating on him when Im not!!
He suggests we do things and i never want to do them with him. I didnt feel like going out this evening to the fireworks but I said he can take our daughter as she would like it. He thinks this is a personal attack. He frustrates me so much to the point I could cry. If im not doing exactly what he wants, then he's nasty. The other morning I didnt want to go to spend the day at his mothers house, and I get called vile and disgusting. When im going through a low few days where I don't want to do anything or see anyone, he can't be bothered with me. I just hate being around him. What should I do....?

OP posts:
ElspethFlashman · 04/11/2018 14:37

Are you serious????

Like actually seriously asking what to do with a complete prick that you hate?

AttilaTheMeerkat · 04/11/2018 14:38

Why on earth are you with this person at all. Is this really the model of a relationship you want to show your daughter. What is he contributing here.

bexxboo · 04/11/2018 14:42

I think I just feel stuck, I know how pathetic this sounds...I just don't know whether it's me & my depression, or him.

OP posts:
crappyday2018 · 04/11/2018 14:42

What should you do? Is that a serious question? Not only do you clearly not love him, he is a complete shit.
Leave him immediately.

bexxboo · 04/11/2018 14:42

Yes :(

OP posts:
AttilaTheMeerkat · 04/11/2018 14:43

He is abusive and is making any underlying depression worse

Varmints · 04/11/2018 14:45

Fuck that, ltb asap!

RyderWhiteSwan · 04/11/2018 14:46

Relationships should enhance our lives, not ruin them! he sounds awful, OP. Ask yourself what positives you get out of being with him.

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