Probably a long post but should I try again with my ex

[GalaxyTuTu]

Who's also, probably more importantly, the dad of both my dds.

I'll try and keep it as brief as possible but it's a bit of a long story

I fell pregnant with dd1 when I was 17.
The dad and I decided that we wanted to try and have a proper relationship but due to our own childhoods that it was more important for the dc that we got along than that we were actually living together so we agreed that if we started arguing we'd split and just concentrate on parenting well together.
It actually all went really well and we were very happy together and about a year later we decided to have another and I fell pregnant with dd2.

However, after dd2 was born we started arguing and we decided to split.

That was 5 years ago and he's been an amazing dad the whole time.
He has the girls 50/50 and has always been there for them emotionally, physically and financially.

Ex and I get along great. We've never had any arguments about who's getting the girls which day or who's paying for what and we take the girls on days out and holidays together and spend christmases together.
I would say he's one of my closest friends.

We had the girls out yesterday and after we got back and got them to bed we stayed up for a few drinks. Ex admitted that he still has feelings for me and would really like to try being a couple again. I told him I didn't know how I felt about it and I'd like to talk about it when we're both completely sober and he didn't say anything else about after that.

He text me this morning asking if I'd like to talk about of if he was out of order. I said I'd speak to him about tonight after he drops the girls off but I've no idea what I actually do want.

Ideally I really would love to try again and make it work with him. I think I do still love him and I've regretted a lot that we didn't try a bit harder to stay together in the first place.
I know the girls would love having us together again as well and having a proper little nuclear family.

However, I know the set up we've got is brilliant and I don't want to rock the boat and mess that up.
I also feel like it would massively upsetting for the girls if it didn't work.

Have you both had relationships in the meantime?

You are both probadly still young and it could be that you are clinging to each other however friendship is a good place to start as a relationship.

Arguing in itself isn't an issue, it's how you both handle differences of opinion.
Can you discuss issues respectfully? Do you both compromise? Has there been verbal abuse, such as name calling, sulking, stonewalling, gaslighting?

Do you have similar views on finances, household duties, socialising, ambitions? If you have very different views then compromising can be impossible.

It seems worthwhile talking if the basics are there but take it slowly and don't let your daughters know as it is more upsetting to have parents separate when they are older.