Had anyone just woke up one day and realised it was over?

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Our relationship should have been bulletproof. We grew up together as kids, played together. Our parents were friends. We always were drawn to each other but we ended up with other people as teenagers and I ended up settling down with someone else even though I didn’t feel it was ever really right so when we separated my now husband stepped in and swept me off my feet. He declared that he always loved me and I knew that I always loved him. We really knew each other and we were best friends too so it was amazing...or I thought it was.
I found out maybe a year into our relationship that he had a Porn addiction (no I’m not crazy and insecure, I don’t mind it if it’s for pleasure now and again) this was intense,viewing it at every opertunity. Googling escorts and had even created a fake profile on a dating site. Going by the history he even watched it at various points on our wedding day (that ones a stinger) I was furious and hurt. I thought we could work through it. It hasn’t been easy and he did fall back on old habits a couple of times but again we worked through it.
So at 5 month pregnant I found out that he’d spent our savings, every penny and I fact was £3000 into his overdraft. I’ll never really know what on but my imagination is certainly working overtime, he claims it was just pure carelessness and it felt good to be able to spend whatever whenever. I said we would work through it.
Our baby is 4 months old now. We went to bed at night after a normal day. I woke up yesterday and got up with DD, he came through and when I looked at him I just felt nothing. I don’t feel love or hate, I’m not upset...just nothing.
He put his arm round me and asked me if I wanted a cup of tea...nothing.
I don’t know if anyone has gone through a similar thing emotionally.
Have I just been hurt so badly that I’ve shut down my feelings for him?
The way I feel right now, I know it’s over. I’m not looking to be with anyone else, I just don’t want to be with him anymore.

OP - it may be over. And it’s sad.
However - the fact that you are only 4 months post baby is the thing that jumped at me.
I remember with both of my kids - by month 3-4 is when the tiredness really kicked in and life seemed hard.
Also - with one of mine - sometime just before then PND surfaced....

All I am saying - you recently gave birth, and it’s a big life change, and your hormones are all over.

I’d wait a little and see how things develop....

But - I did also wake up one day and realised - it’s over. So - I know how it feels.

Yes, it happened to me. We were engaged. Lived together for 7 years. I realised I'd turned into his mother. We were more flatmates than lovers. It was 20 years ago, but I remember it as if it was yesterday. I woke up on a bank holiday Monday, weather was glorious. I wandered downstairs and he was laid on the sofa playing on his PlayStation and as if I was having an out of body experience I said, "I don't want to do this anymore". 7 words that changed my life. I drove to a phone box and called my mother, who called his mother (!) By the time I got home a few hours later he had packed and gone back to his parents.

We had been due to go on holiday a week later. I went without him and met my future husband. Funny how things work out.

Notwithstanding everything you've written, which all sound like valid reason to end the relationship, the only thing you need to remember is this part "I’m not looking to be with anyone else, I just don’t want to be with him anymore. And that really is enough.