Relationship after having a baby...

[Mumma2be7727]

Hello.
I was just wondering how or even if your relationships changed after having a baby.
My daughter is just 3 weeks old so I understand it's all fresh & new for us but the first 2 weeks was great' he honselty couldn't do enough for us both but now we are into the 3rd week he seems to have changed & not for the better.
For exmpale I went shopping & forget to get an item he wanted so he started an argument saying I cannot do anything right, then I asked for us to go and have a cuddle in bed and watch a film as the baby was asleep his reply was you go, to which I said no I mean me & you together his reply was you don't need me to hand your hand for god sakes. I get that the tiredness gets too much sometimes but he sleeps through the night anyway as I do all the feeds and nappy changes ect throughout the night anyway, he stays asleep but there just doesn't seem to be any love coming from his side anymore, he won't even cuddle me, it's almost like he doesn't want to be with us anymore, which is really upsetting & bringing on some bad baby blues for me too now.
Was just wondering if anyone else partner acted this way after a baby?
Thank you in advance & sorry for the long post.

Hey mumma, no advice as such - just that yes, tiredness can mean people are more snappy and also that you are perhaps a little more sensitive - what he said sounds pretty mean to me but without being there is is hard to know if he meant it to sound like it did? Just to say if you posted in the parents section I think you'd have more reponses/ help x

Husbands can get post natal depression.
Just see if it is general tiredness and grumps for the next week or so. If it doesn’t improve, have a chat about things in general and see whether you think he needs to see his GP

It's really hard OP and having a baby will bring to the surface any issues in your relationship. You'll have less time and energy to pander to your DH and he may struggle to adjust. I used to tell DH that if you don't want to do the night shifts at home then I can't make you but then you need to understand just how tired I am and live with the consequences. Funnily enough he's recently started doing more as our now 11 week old isn't as bonded with him and now she's got more personality she'll scream when he tries to hold her because she's used to me doing it all. Just do what you need to for you and the baby. He will need to fit in. If he gets pissed off for stupid things then you will then need to be really firm that you are taking care of a new baby and that comes first. He's telling you that he doesn't want to be helpful at the moment so let him sulk and be grumpy whilst you have a lovely time bonding with your baby.