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Should I just leave him?

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Mummiee2018 · 03/11/2018 20:39

I’ve recently found out my husband has had an affair with one of our friends. At the time our marriage was at a major low we both hated each other and made it pretty obvioius we did. No excuse for an affair but I decided to try again. He’s since gone on anti depressants and is seeing a therapist and he’s much better in himself and is trying more to be around me and the kids. But now I’m spending more time with him I’m just finding him so dull and boring! Granted I think I’m a bit of a boring person too so that probably doesn’t help but there’s just no attempt at him making a conversation with me and when I try with him he’s always distracted on his phone or laptop or something. I just think I deserve better to be honest but at the same time I do love him and don’t want a broken marriage for the sake of my boys!

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Moominfan · 03/11/2018 20:48

Say another few years down line and you still feel same would it have been a waste to try? Would you regret not trying. Can you get what you want out of this relationship? Do you both want the same things?

Mummiee2018 · 03/11/2018 20:51

This is what he said after I found out about the affair, basically said it would be better for me to try and fail to forgive him then regret not trying, which I get. I’m just still so angry at him. I literally think about it all the time and I dream about her. It’s like I just want to be able to have quiet thinking time again without that popping into my head ( it’s been about a month) so then I’m thinking well if I leave him will it still disturb my thoughts or will I find peace again! X

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Moominfan · 03/11/2018 21:27

Would some space give you some peace to put things in perspective?

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