Ended things with bloke - sad & lonely, need distraction tonight

[Upyerbum70]

Just that really. 2 weeks ago I ended our 2.5 yr relationship . I’m sad and upset. He doesn’t seem all that fussed. Which I suppose sums up why I ended up taking that course of action. Don’t live together but only 5 mins apart. I was reading another thread about sociopaths (he isn’t one) but it did echo something about him - his lack of emotion. Just doesn’t understand when I say I’ve missed him, approach him for a hug/kiss or tell him I love him. Looks all uncomfortable and sort of shrugs it off in an embarrassed way. I did post ages ago about it. It’s been dragging on. Just me, the cat and strictly so I’m, quite sadly, looking for human contact. Don’t judge 😁

Mine too

Known him 5 years, together a year and a half.

Told me whilst having a good night with him last Friday that it would be the last time I was coming over. Ignored me for 2 days, been texting like normal all week. Afraid to ask where I stand but deep down I kind of know

What the flip blush? Sounds bloody rude. Have you told him just how mean he’s being?

I blame OLD, men seem to think it’s like a sweet shop. Until every woman on there raises the bar, what can you do?

I was just stunned! Didn't know what to say or do.

I did ask him what he wants to do and he said he didn't know!

I just want to be special to someone and I thought I was special to him

Well I won’t be going back on OLD any time soon. I work in a very male environment but at 48yrs old I’m pretty much invisible. So I guess I’ll be on my own a LONG time. But my cat loves me

blush what do YOU want?

I want him - stupid really as he's not got much going for him

Well I guess it gives you some room for thinking .. what you want, what your

Bugger posted too soon, I was going to say you can decide what crap you’re prepared to take.

I’m 57!!! OLD is not an option anymore, well not for me anyway. I just CBA with crap and bullshit, I’m trying hard to rebuild my life, if I meet someone then great, if I don’t, then I’m hoping my life will be great and I won’t notice.

A man is not the be all and end all. I miss the spontaneity of a relationship. I’m sitting here on Saturday night watching Netflix, where as if I was with my ex, we would’ve gone out somewhere. But that’s all I miss, the element of spontaneity.

You see the thing is that women get less tolerant as we get older. Men in their 40s go one of 2 ways. They want a younger model, who promptly promises them the earth and enjoys their money before popping out a child then happily lives off the child maintenance with her new more age appropriate partner, or they get a bicycle because they accept that they won’t ever get a proper hard on again without medication. Either way men in their 50s have decided they would rather be alone. They are all either spending their cash on CMS or spare parts for said bicycle

japan I’m probably being completely dim but what’s CMS?

Mine doesn’t have a bike. Don’t think he really wants to be on his own either. But he also doesn’t take risks in life. He’s always ‘going to buy this building or patch or woodland’... nothing ever happens. But I’ve seen lots of nice woods

I love woods, we could all club together and have a mumsnet forest! Child maintenance service

I could dui

I could show you some good ones. The last one we saw we took my two dcs and we picked blackberries and chucked sticks in the river and identified fungi and generally had a lovely day. Even called at a pub for lemonade and crisps - sat in the sunshine and just had a lovely time. And he’s not even mentioned the fact that he’s - in all probability- going to see them again.

I’m gutted about not seeing his family who are just lovely. His ex didn’t get along with them but she was an alcoholic and had a number of issues going on. I’m more the same age as them and have things in common. Rambling again

Lonely is horrid, but he doesn’t deserve you.

I think lonely is what I'm afraid of

blush being on your own isn’t too bad. Don’t think about it as being lonely . Right now it’s one day at a time. Plod on. Eat . Sleep. Thump a few cushions. But he’s got some explaining to do - unless you’re done with listening and just tell him to do one.

If I died I’d probably be found laid at the bottom of the stairs after 3 weeks and the cats would have eaten half of me! That’s the difference between alone and being lonely!

japan have you ever considered a bungalow?

Yes, the house is currently up for sale 😂

Argh another lovely sweet message from his niece today. So he’s obviously been to see his family today (had a meal cooked for him) and told them all we are no longer together. Is it wrong to have hoped (just a teeny bit) that he might have fought a bit to keep things alive? He asked if he could bob over to drop off a t shirt. I was shirt with him as he’s so freaking breezy . No, you can’t just drop by on your way to your mums. Yes, makes me feel like a twit but he’s swanning about as normal and I’m f**ked off. I don’t want to be single, and I certainly don’t want to go back onto POF.

Sorry to hear that. I hope you told him your cat had shit on the shirt so you threw it away