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dingdang · 03/11/2018 17:02

I tried online dating at the start of the summer and met a man. We meet up once or twice a week for dinner or a movie, we get on well and I enjoy his company. We are both mid forties with busy careers and I have a child (4) but he doesn't. I think I saw this as a summer fling type of thing but I'm starting to develop feelings. We have had the exclusive chat and are not dating other people. So far so good.

I've been out of the dating game for so long (with ex for ten years) I'm not sure what this is between us - he's not met my child yet as I think it's way too soon ( it's been four months dating) - but little alarm bells are ringing. I've never visited his home - he says this is because his mum is living with him at the moment due to her ill health.

He is Asian and I'm white and I don't see that as an issue but he is always mentioning it. I've joked that he could be married with two kids and I'd never know but he tells me not to be daft!!! Essentially I'm trying to work out if I'm happy to keep this casual relationship going or if it's time to end it. Can anyone help me figure out what to do? Thanks if you managed to get to the end of this very long post!

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Sally2791 · 03/11/2018 17:05

And you're not allowed to meet his mother? Seems odd. Any other warning signs?

bigchris · 03/11/2018 17:07

Do you think he doesnt want you to meet his mother because she won't approve?

hellraising · 03/11/2018 17:08

Why don't you have a conversation with him about where the relationship is going and his feelings about it? Then make an informed decision.

dingdang · 03/11/2018 17:09

Yeah that's it.. I feel in my gut that this guy doesn't see any future for us. I mean not that I really want to meet his family. She is very old fashioned apparently and would not take well to her son dating a white woman.

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dingdang · 03/11/2018 17:10

Yes I need to have the conversation with him I guess...

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dingdang · 03/11/2018 17:13

I mean that at four months in I'm not expecting to meet his family... I'm not introducing him to my daughter either.

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