What to do when he's much more into you and wanting the relationship to develop much faster that you do?
The problem is I like him! I have talked to him about it and he actually said that he thought I just wasn't interested much because I am so relaxed/laid back about how things progress compared with his previous partners. He says he likes that I am not all intense and rushing into things, but also says I could let go a little more.
Bit of background - I have previously been in unhealthy relationships - men that were not emotionally ready to settle or men who were difficult to be in relationships with due to distance, personal issues etc. Fast forward a year and I've done huge amounts of work on myself and whilst I clearly have found someone emotionally available, i also seem to have managed to close myself off from giving too much to someone.
Let's call this new man Eric. Me and Eric have been dating for 3 months. I stay over at his once a week. We only see each other at weekends and often i have plans with friends that sit around that. All of which he has no issue with. We speak every night and I enjoy that - he is good fun.
But - I am never keen to meet in the week (he lives 50 mins away but is always willing to come over). I have never let him into my house - I want to at some point but just dont feel ready.
He wants to spend more time together. And although ive not asked him directly, i know he would be delighted if we made it "official." He wants to see me in the week and plan a weekend away together. He's just a very nice person and it's left me feeling pretty scared/lost!
I know the answer is that everyone goes at their own pace and that he should respect whatever it is that i want. and i agree with that. however i dont want to ruin what could be something special because of my background of dating arseholes and because i am scared.
there's no normal, i know, but how can i let myself go a little here? i like him and something tells me it is me, not him, that is behaving a little unusually here..