My Boss

[TinyDancer1988]

Okay here goes, I do overtime at night in my work. We had a new boss join us about 5 months ago. He's 40 years old and I'm 30. We chat away often and we have a laugh, however he always asks how my bf is and what I've been upto and he recently was chatting about his partner also. He asks me things like how much do I make a month, what's my favourite pizza what do I do at weekends, do I go out. He left his wife for another woman who he is currently with, I'm certain he met her at his work as she works for the exact same company in his old store. I work dayshift normally but there's always overtime on nights and he likes to have me in because I'm a great worker. Anyway last night he asked me for my personal number so he could contact me about overtime. Is this weird? I see him most mornings when I start my dayshift hours and he's finishing nightshift so he could ask me then like he has been doing. Also my sister works nightshift 4 nights a week and we stay together in the same house so if he really needed to get a hold of me he could just ask my sister to pass the message on ( he knows my sister wouldn't mind ) he also hasn't mentioned to my sister that he has my personal number to contact me and I really don't think he has anyone else number. Am I overthinking or is there something in it.

If you didn’t have any concerns about him I’d say that’s normal for the company to have your personal number, and for him to have access as a manager. Is there a reason the company doesn’t already have a list of employees addresses and telephone numbers?

I don’t see anything wrong in this

I used to work in retail. I gave my number to two night shift managers just incase they could offer me any overtime.

He isn’t being innapropriate I don’t really see what your problem is if I’m honest

Are you hoping he is after a fling or worried about it?

There's nothing weird in his questions.

Presumably you think he has/ want him to have alterior motives?

No not at all I don't want a fling or for him to want me at all. I am happily with someone and have been for the last 3 years. I was just curious as he's the only manager in the last 10 years of working there that has ever asked for my number. It was just strange as he asks me any other time when he sees me in work if I want the extra shifts and it's the first a manager has ever asked how much money I make, am I happy with my bf, what sort of food I like have I ever been to Mexican restaurants and going quite personal about his ex wife etc. I just wondered that's all as every manager I've had hasn't ever really went that deep and personal about their life or relationships

So new boss is trying to get to know you. Makes chit chat and asks for your number.

You are worries because he may or may not have met his current partner through work, when he was with someone else.

I think you are reading far too much into it.

GIve him an email address?

If your instincts about this sort of thing are normal spot on then listen to them. Agree with other posters about giving him another method to contact you if you are wary about giving him your number for whatever reason. Or maybe ask your colleagues what method they use to hear about extra shifts to see if you're being asked something they aren't.

It's only normal if he's asked others for their personal number. Maybe ask your colleagues how he normally notifies them of extra shifts.

If your instincts are normally spot on about this sort of thing then trust them. Agree with other posters about giving him another method if you're wary about giving out your number, including telling your sister if that is reliable.

It could be that he is romantically interested in you, but it could also be that it's just small talk and he's a bit over familiar. It's hard to tell from what you've said and could be either scenario.

If you're not interested in him then just make sure you let him know if he gets too overly friendly.

Others have been asked directly when In work by him and their name goes on the rota as does mine it was just last night he said give me your number and I can contact you about shifts and I have him it not thinking into it but then this morning I thighs why hasn't he asked anyone else for their number to contact them about extra shifts. I think I will mention next time to email me in future or just contact me how he has done the last few months... by asking me when he sees me most mornings in work before his shift finishes