My DS has been on and off sick since end of August, started with chest infection and has had bouts of cough since then leaving him unable to attend nursery of some days.
I work part time 3 days a week and DS is in nursery on those days, my partner (his dad) works full time. He has at least 2 days a week when he doesn’t start work until evening, on those days I normally work and DS is in nursery. So when DS was not well on one of those days, I naturally expect my partner to stay at home with him. This is turning out to be a big problem. My partner normally makes a plan, either doing work around house or more often working on developing his business and he is literally mad when he needs to stay and look after DS. He says he is trying to achieve something but he needs to cancel his plans because of DS. This happened about 3 times since September. He also thinks that DS is fit enough to go to nursery – yes, he seemed better in the morning, but was up most of the night coughing and he expects him to do 9 – 17:30 full day at nursery ?! DH works hard and long hours but he is frustrated in his job and is trying to change his career path – the time he has off he wants to dedicate majorly to try and achieve this. BUT – does that mean I should not go to work myself when DS is not well?
To make things worse, he keeps repeating that my mother should come and help us indefinitely, so that he doesn’t have to stay with DS so often as he seems to be poorly every other week. My mother is retired but lives abroad, so not as easily done.
We fight so much about who does more, who does less, without having to go into more detail, we just can’t come into any sort of understating in the matter and I don’t know what to do anymore…