feel like I could stab him - over washing up.

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Desparate tonight, can't sleep, so so so angry and wild. Usual problem; feel like I am doing far more than my fair share. I am breadwinner + do at least 50% of housework and 50% of childcare. I have tried to give him a nice day today for fathers day,but end up feeling tired and stressed through having done everything plus the children have played up all day. Final straw - washing up, his one job today, left YET AGAIN (no we can't put in a dish washer, no room and this is rented). Can I really finish my marriage (we have 3 kids) over this? Just feel hopeless TBH, too many sulks and arguements, just want a happy family life but he won't contribute his bit.

Feel like I hate him. Sorry to be so negative, I have no one else to cry to (I have changed my name here).

look, get a cleaner in, REFUSE to do any housework. But first get some sleep. Check into a hotel for the week if you need to, to get yourself on an even keel. You sound exhausted. x.

Sorry you're having such a hard time. Sounds like you seriously need to sit him down and tell him how you feel and that if absolutely necessary you need to write down the tasks and divide them equally so that they get done and are not left to you. To help you, could you not get a cleaner in say once ever fortnight to do the proverbial "white tornado" through the house, taking some of the pressure of you?!?!? I know how you feel, my H never appreciated what it was like to do 100% of the childcare and housework and my two ds's are only 18mnths apart and 5/4 respectively. Okay being the breadwinner's hard, but I don't see why the rest of the tasks could not be divided. You seriously sound as though you need a break away from it all. How about a girl's weekend away with a best friend and have some serious spoiling. Good luck and btw you're not alone in feeling like this.

what have you tried to get him to do his bit so far?