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I'm still madly in love with my Lo's father

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Cr20 · 01/11/2018 08:41

I’ve wrote this before on another website but want to see if anyone has ever been in the same position!

Me and my Lo’s father let’s call him M , I was 18 and he was 22 when we were speaking , anyways 2 months down the line i was staying with him every single night and he had asked me to move in which I did as it felt right. down the line I fell pregnant and we had a chat about if we thought we’d be together forever and we thought that it was so right as were in totally in love with one another!

We then went on to have our baby boy and everything flipped and turned upside down! I hit major baby blues and he was working Constantly and coming home and going to bed , felt like we had never spent time together and when we did we were arguing over the smallest thing or would be totally all over one another there was no in between!

Anyways fast forward and I’m 20 and M is 24 , our baby was now 6 months old! Everything caught up and M just wasn’t in love with me anymore and the arguing was getting to much! I went to my mums for a break and he came down with all my bags the next day and that was it. It had happened for a day before but he asked me back and when we argued he’d tell me to leave but then come back as he didn’t mean it and couldn’t stand having different people in and out our sons lives!

Its now been 2 months since we’ve broken up . I’m finding it difficult to move on and try get over it! I’m totally in love with the boy and he was with me every single day before we broke up! It all just felt out of the blue and just wants to shut me out his life now and not do anything together with our son when I say he’s more than welcome to join. He’ll still see our son and he’s good with our son. We text each other about him sometimes but also bicker still as he moans I go out and he can’t stand seeing me go out enjoying myself while family watch Marcus for the night when I’ve got our son all the time. He’s blocked me on everything now and we’ve recently spoke to start a clean slate by trying to co parent but he still doesn’t want to do anything together for our sons sake and has still blocked me on everything.

He’s moving out the house next week to live with his mum for a few months to save up for a mortgage for him to live himself 

I want him back and I feel he’s still attracted to me. Will it just take time. I think he’s just been really down lately and his head is all over the place, has anyone ever got back with their lo’s father of have they begged you to come back when they were the ones that left you.

I want to hear your similar stories if there is any.

Thankyou for reading 

OP posts:
ShatnersWig · 01/11/2018 08:49

Move on.

You got involved too deeply, too heavily, far too quickly when you were really young - moving in together when you'd known him two months and getting pregnant not that much long after.

He doesn't want, need or have to "do anything together" for your son's sake. It's over and you need to accept this. You are now co-parents and that is all.

EmmaGhostGhoul · 01/11/2018 10:10

I think you are going to have to accept it's over. He's not going to beg you to come back. You need to concentrate on co-parenting your son, that's the most important thing now.

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