Engagement ring

[jenn151]

Separated since may after being married for 6 years. My stbxh is demanding engagement ring back as he says I don't deserve to keep it as I won't take him back. Is this the norm. It was work about €350, so it's not like it was expensive I have no problem with giving it back but just wanted to ask if most men that separate from their wives demand the ring back.

You get to keep the engagement ring. If I was you i’d sell it and buy something you love. Tell him you’ve sold it already or thrown it down the loo x

No. I’m a lawyer so know what I’m talking about. An engagement ring is a gift. If the ring was valued at over £500 you would have to declare it on your form E. Make sure you have written evidence of him asking for the ring back as judges in divorce cases will take a very dim view of this behaviour. Most men do not ask for the engagement ring back and would be strongly discouraged from doing so by their solicitor as it makes them look “mean and spiteful”. If the ring was a family heirloom the rules are slightly different

Tell that cheeky fucker to jog on. After marriage, the engagement ring belong to YOU. Ignore the twat.

Thanks for reply's. Yeah it just makes him look really mean. He also asked for the jewelry back that he has ever given me!! The only ever thing he got me was a chain not costing any more that 30 euros!! So he wants the ring and chain back to give to someone who will deserve them in the future!! Just proves wat an immature ass he is!!!!!

Dodged a bullet there OP!

Mean with money, mean with love. Stay strong OP. Ignore and see a divorce lawyer ASAP

I'd throw it at him, with it stuck to a rock

I separated from my husband of 10 years and he demanded EVERY gift he’d ever given me back.

What a petty man. You got married...you didn't breaks off an engagement.

He's crazy.

My ex demanded half of the horse that my grandparents bought me as an 18th birthday present, I didn’t even meet my ex until I was 25. If I didn’t love my horse I would have bloody sent half. The rear half! The judge was not impressed with his request

It’s a gift. He has no claim on it.

An engagement ring is a gift. He can 🖕🏼

My stbxh has asked that the cost of my engagement ring (bought for £125 in 1988), an eternity ring bought for my 30th Birthday and an eternity ring bought for our 25th wedding anniversary are included in the value of my share of the assets in our divorce! He's a twat 😄

I'm sorry what everyone has gone through. I cannot believe people can be this mean!

Wow. Imagine being his next girlfriend and finding out he is giving you second hand jewellery.

Doubt that relationship will last much after that.

It’s yours. Do what you want with it.

Its a control thing, its not actually about the items its about trying to hurt you back and get a certain amount of control. Control is a huge issues through divorce esp if the person was controlling within the marriage.

Asking for the ring back is traditionally the sign of a grade A shit. HTH.

Dont give him anything back, you dont ask for gifts back no matter what x

Meh I'd give him them all back if he wants to be so petty

Get your name engraved in it, then give it back

Get your name engraved in it, then give it back

Genius