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What do you think - honest but stupid, or gaslighting?

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macula · 31/10/2018 03:33

H told me the other day that while he was away with work, a woman (who he mentioned was very attractive) "threw herself" at him, but that he said "no, I'm not that kind of guy, I'm married, I've made a promise"... Then followed it with telling me a couple of days later, another woman kissed him (apparently out of the blue, but he says he didn't respond and stepped back).

Assuming he didn't do anything with either of these women, he seemed to come across as telling me this because, a) he "needed to tell me the truth" (which I think means he was tempted but supposedly proud of himself for not going there), and b) almost as if to brag.

For context he has a low sex drive and always has had, but it's much worse these days.

But I now feel insecure - especially as he called the first woman attractive.

What say you?

Honest, anxious and very stupid about my feelings?

Or gaslighting?

OP posts:
Huskylover1 · 31/10/2018 12:14

So, he's not interested in sex with you and he is kissing a colleague. Hmm.

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