Any one up for a no contact thread/ handhold?

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So I am at day 1 of breaking off a four year relationship due to him trying to date other women and the fact he wasn't the man for me anymore.

We don't have any ties and I have my keys back. However I'm still feeling dazed and numb... and guilty. Guilty for devasting him. Although that sounds stupid.

I'm trying the 30 days no contact... Anyone want to join me? Or give any pearls of wisdom?

I'll join you. Can't cope with Cassandra Syndrome anymore. Still got to do the key thing though. Not looking forward to Christmas

I am you are more than welcome

Day 1 has finished. It was horrible, I just felt sick to be honest. He messaged a few times, but I was firm and said that there was no going back. Im just not happy anymore.

He asked about being friends, I was honest and said I couldn't promise that. I now have my keys back

So he is is blocked on my phone and WhatsApp, unfriended on Facebook... So the healing begin

So I am at day 1 of breaking off a four year relationship due to him trying to date other women and the fact he wasn't the man for me anymore.

^ Same with my ex, OP.

• Narcissistic, gaslighting, kept contact with all his exes, online harem, women he would see as 'friends'. I was 'jealous and insecure' for not wanting loads of women to be privy to our relationship business, and able to call on him day and night with their problems, DIY needs, company for an evening out etc.

I broke 'No Contact' so many times. When I finally decided no more of this, it felt horrible. I'm sure I was addicted to him.

I felt like shit. But blocked him totally, got on with my work, exercised more, socialised even when I didn't particularly feel like it. Took 5htp on a friend's advice, which helped me to feel better and got me through the days.

I've been with my current lovely DP for over 5 years now. Kind, handsome, considerate. No hangers on in our relationship.

I look back now and wonder what I ever saw in my ex, yet at the time I thought I could never live without him. & couldn't bear the thought that he'd go on to have a shiny new relationship and be happy, when he'd treated me so badly.

Now I couldn't give a shit. Let one of his hangers on have the 'pleasure' of being with him.

You'll get there OP.

Day 2 - yesterday was easier but it feels like an eternity still

I know that I'm doing the right thing but like someone said on another thread ' there is comfort in the known'

I don't want him to be my known so I'm sticking to this I have too...