feel pressured over contraception

[watermelon21]

Don't know if I'm being stupid, but I feel so pressured in my relationship to be the one responsible for contraception. I've been on the implant and minipill and had awful bleeding, and on the pill now I feel so low and depressed all the time to the point that I don't want to leave the house. I've tried talking about using other options e.g. condoms, spermicide and no real response, am I being selfish if I come off it and leave no option other than for him to take action? It's destroying my mental and physical health and making me feel I'm better off on my own.

No you are not being selfish. There's no point in being on any of these contraceptions if they don't work for you. If your partner won't use condoms and thinks more about himself and his needs than your well being then maybe he isn't the right partner for you.

You’re not being unreasonable at all, you shouldn’t have to put yourself through this, you tried, it’s not working.

Seeing as he won’t engage in the topic, I’d simply tell him that you’re coming off the pill and you’ll have to use condoms from now on. When sex is next on the cards, he uses one, or no PiV. Then he either accepts condoms or is forced into a conversation and to take some responsibility.