Aibu to want to live together ?

[Endofmyteather2206]

So I have been with my partner for just a little over 4 years now. We both live in separate houses, I live alone and my partner has a house with two children living there, I love the kids and count them as my own and would do any thing for all three of them.

I really would like to start living together as a proper family but my partner doesn’t want this for various reasons. I stay over a few nights a week and it’s great on morning waking up with every one and spending time together. As apposed to waking up alone. We do spend every evening together and the nights I don’t stay over I normally leave at 11pm and go back to an empty house.

I dont class my house as my home it’s just a base to keep my belongings and sleep when I’m not staying over with my partner and the kids as that’s where I class as home

We all get on great together and I know the kids love me, but am I being unreasonable to want more and to share our lives together full time ?

I’m curious as to how much you’re doing for him on the wife work front. How much child care, how much cooking, cleaning and washing, how much driving etc?

I do every thing I can for them and apart from living together we do all the normal day to day couple things. I get the kids from school when I can, make teas and spend quality time with DP the kids. I’ve taken on board what’s been mentioned and agree that I need to get my house into a home, as it depresses me being there alone when I have a family so close but yet so far

To be honest, I think you need to concentrate more on yourself, you seem to be very much at the beck and call of your DP and his kids.

When's your time, for the stuff YOU enjoy doing? Agree with poster above who said it sounds like you're doing all of the wife work already.

He has no reason to ask you to move in because you're already there all the time (and running around after them). Go home earlier and enjoy your own company.

I"d take a step back and improve your home situation. Buy some nice bits and pieces or redecorate, make it your home again.

And what does he do for YOU?
It seems it's all give give give on your part.
Please get some hobbies.
Stop being there all the time.
Have 2 nights (minimum) a week where you do something you enjoy with a new group or with friends.
Do you do his shopping, cooking, cleaning, ironing by any chance????