Would you be annoyed at this?

[drained1]

If your ex turned up to pick your dcs up with his new gf.....without telling you?

I'm not jealous or bitter (we split years ago and I'm now married and had another baby) but I've lost count of how many gfs he's had. The latest one he introduced to my kids without telling me and then told my kids to lie to me about it....which didn't go down well with me at all.

We didn't speak, I had no idea she was coming but she's cuddling and kissing my dcs when they walked over to her and I didn't even get a proper chance to say bye to them as she put them in the car. I won't see them for a week now near enough. I felt uncomfortable with her being so overly affectionate with them.

Like I say, don't know what number gf this is now but I hate that they get so close to my dcs then disappear.....unless this one actually stays of course.

It depends. If it's a new relationship I would be annoyed and it's also pretty rude she didn't say a curtious hello. If he has been with her for a while (6months+) then I wouldn't be as annoyed as the relationship may be going somewhere spits nice she wants to see the children.

I would be incredibly annoyed!! And although others will say it's down to jealousy etc I think it's only fair you're told beforehand, in fact my ex DH and I always arranged for the other to meet with a new partner before the children met with them just because it made us both feel more comfortable. It's not fair on the children to constantly be introduced to new women, you need to have a stern word with him about it

This is the 3rd time they have met her. They've been together apparently 2 months - though it's more than likely longer as he changed on his last gf (who was lovely) with this new one.

I asked ex if he could wait at least a few months before introducing the new gf to the kids. But instead he did it behind my back and told the kids to lie to me when I asked what they had done that weekend. Luckily my dd knows right from wrong and told me the truth straight away.

I can see why I sound bitter and jealous but I'm anything but that. I'm married now, I moved on a long time ago - tbf there was nothing for me to move on from, he cheated on me countless times and I couldn't stand the sight of him at the end.

His last gf was great! So nice and friendly. This one....no idea what she's like.

I'd be annoyed he asked your kids to lie to you more than anything else, that's bang out of order and putting them in a terrible position. Unfortunately there's not much you can about him introducing g/fs etc though

@Trinity66 yep totally understand there's nothing I can do about it.

The getting the kids to lie was probably the worst thing he's ever done to me. He made dd so uncomfortable. I went ballistic at him.

He's just one that makes mistake after mistake. He will never learn unfortunately