I am never going to meet anyone am I?

[nannytothequeen]

Two years down the line from a separation it seems that I am never going to meet anyone nor have a romantic relationship again. In this time I have not met a single person who was even a possibility. In fact I can't even think of any single men I've met, suitable or not. I am knocking on the door of fifty and know plenty of women in my age group who are similarly single and are much better prospects than me. I do not stand a chance.

My ex on the other hand is with the OW. The younger OW and that seems to be the pattern. Men of my age are interested in younger women and have no real problem moving on. Whilst I have a 20 years of birthdays and christmases on my own.

It's not like I sit at home all the time. I have a busy job, hobbies, I do voluntary work and do all the day to day care of my kids whilst the ex wines and dines his shameless trollop. But I literally meet no one who might bring any romance into my life. And it's starting to get to me.

Don't be ridiculous. You are still young

You sound like a truly excellent person, OP. There'll be someone out there for you. How could there not be? Sounds to me like your ex was punching way above his weight.

As an aside...Shatners, are you and your 41 year old single friend missing something? 

My dsis divorced 40 years ago, she dated a short while early on, but not for long. She's lovely, slim, attractive, lots of interests but no man. Just this year she met a nice chap at Church and they are a couple. She's 73 and very happy at last. He is 75 and a widower.
So it does happen. I think it's harder in the younger years, though. I really do. When you are older, like me it's more about companionship. It's not as complicated. Kids have left home, no work stresses, more free time. And so on.
Don't feel despondent OP. Enjoy your life. Don't worry. And good luck.

You can't predict your life like that. There's no way you know what's around the corner in your future.

I spent just over 3 years alone after splitting with my horrid, narcissistic ex. Went out one evening with a guy I met via OLD. Rubbish date, but had an "eyes across the room" moment with the man who has been my lovely DP for the last 5 years.

I was 51 when I met DP.

It's not over till it's over, as they say.

Most older women I know aren't actually single, even if they're not in 'nice and conventional' relationships.

The ones who are may go out to work and an exercise class but that's it, they don't go anywhere theyre likely to meet a man so, Prince Charming isn't likely to come knocking.

It's ok to be single. Equally ok to want someone. It's like anything, you have to get up and out there..we're taught that it's fine to go for what you want in life - except if it's a man of course, then you have to sit prettily waiting.

Im 7 years single and frankly it suits me. If the right person comes along. Wayhey. But it they don't. Never mind

@Mawkish Many have suggested it but no, there are one or two fundamental differences in what we're looking for that make us totally incompatible in the romantic sense even if we mutually attracted.

Ah, ok Shatners - forgive my clumsy attempt at matchmaking.

Nothing to forgive!