His online dating

[strivingforsuccess]

Hi, looking for sound advice please.

Met online, 2 years ago so now very much a ‘couple’ attending events together, blending our families etc.

I’ve made it clear i’m a one man woman and expected the same in return, to which he agreed with. Shut down dating apps etc, etc.

I’ve recently had a feeling something was ‘different’ but couldn’t place my finger on it. Then came feelings of him cheating, which i’ve not had in the whole time we’ve been together.

My ex was unfaithful so i’ve Been unsure if paranoia or a 6th sense?

Anyway, long story short, curiosity got the better of me and i’ve snooped (I know, bad girl) and not liked what i’ve seen.

Turns out he’s registered with lots of hook up sites, some before we met and some (I think) whilst we’ve been together

I’m in a state - he says (as do his friends) he’s into a committed relationship with me. My friends say it’s evident he’s ‘into’ me so why would he do this?

I want to be with this man but I know if I confront him it’ll likely end .

How do I either deal with and accept this or call him out on it?

What is wrong with having a discussion with him? Either he is and you need to deal with that info as you see fit or they may be old sites but why didn’t he shut them down? He has some explaining to do.

At the end of the day it’s what you are prepared to put up with if anything at all.

Where did you snoop?

Photograph the evidence op, with dates visible

Cutting the grass - thanks.
I have said to him i’m Feeling this way, Hence why i’m Not sure how to proceed.

Anona -thanks for the tip!

Confront him he’s playing you for a fool love yourself more than him!

Was he or wasn't he on them before you met? And was it understood you were exclusive at the time he visited (if it was very early on?). Looking on hook up sites before you were dating is obviously irrelevant. Have you asked him about what you've seen? What makes you think that he's used the sites more recently- are there more recent messages etc?

Adora - that’s how I feel 😞

Mousey - some definitely before I met him but others i’m unsure of as I can’t see the “welcome to xxxx” email when he’s registered tho my mind is telling me otherwise 🤷‍♀️

I believe if before we met then yes, irrelevant. However if since we’ve been together then i’m Livid at the thought of it tbh.
I’ve no evidence he’s messaging anyone at present so again, this is what makes me unsure on what to do