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DV advice needed please

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Starflowersoldier · 29/10/2018 23:51

I'm asking for a bit of advice with people that know the main possible outcome or been through something simular, so cut along story short partner has been violent on a couple of occasions before and has always been emotional abusive as well as on occasions financially too, he has also always been controlling about who I speak to who I see and not being able to go out with out minus going out with parents but that's always going down town to do food shop ECT. On the last occasions he was very drunk and we had an argument I sent him away via the back gate as I was shutting and locking it we was still arguing (he definitely knew i was there) and then he kicked it very hard (breaking the bottom of the gate) and it hit me in the head and knocked me unconscious as i was going down he walk past me and went through the house leaving gate wide open, as i got up and stumbled through the kitchen i heard him leave through the front door. I rang the police and went to hospital ECT. My kids were at home but all was fast asleep and stayed asleep. But as the police was involved and arrested him the children/social services have gotten involved and now I am extremely nervous about that very much. Now ex partner does not stay round at all but is at his dads who is just down the road, I live in a village that is surrounded by his family and friends. The lovely women from services came and talked to me and the kids and did brief house check. They seemed happy but wanted to do another visit to see what he is like with kids here. They also want me to go to this walk in centre for abuse.

How is this situation going to go and any advice please give.

Also please ask any questions if you need more info

Thank you
P.s please be gentle I'm a sack of nerves at the moment x

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TittyBoneGhoul · 30/10/2018 00:05

I’m so sorry you are suffering.
Have you left him? Do you plan on taking him back?

Starflowersoldier · 30/10/2018 13:37

Hi thank you, I don't want to take him back at all, I'm still living in the house that is rented but in his name, I was thinking of applying to the council to be rehoused as can't find anywhere that will take me on as I'm part time self employed.

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TittyBoneGhoul · 30/10/2018 23:46

Yes apply to the council. The social services will be wanting to check you are not planning on having him back or around the children I would imagine? Which sounds like your plan
Sorry about the lack of replies here. Consider posting in AIBU and you will get a lot more x

Starflowersoldier · 31/10/2018 12:05

I think they might but my ds said he wanted daddy back and they said they will try to support this as it very sad to here that but then later they called and mentioned about me going to the walk - in centre and she is taking me there herself as I cannot drive so I am a bit confused with that, I was hoping for some more replies as previous post have had loads. What is AIBU sorry I'm very new to all of this

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TittyBoneGhoul · 31/10/2018 23:38

You have posted in relationships. Try posting in the board called am I being unreasonable (AIBU) to get more replies. I’m not sure why you haven’t had any Sad but that is a busier board

Starflowersoldier · 01/11/2018 07:17

Thank you for the help SmileSmile

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