bit of a long story, sorry in advance.
I have been separated from dd's dad for over 5 years now but thankfully we have become good friends despite our history (always arguing when we were together). He started seeing another girl shortly after we broke up and they now have a dd together but sadly have split up too.
He is a wonderful Dad, speaks to dd everyday on the phone, has her to stay every other weekend and holidays and he is always interested in her safety, happiness, schooling, developement etc and pays maintenence but he gets very sad and depressed at these times of year, fathers day, christmas, dd's birthday etc and says he's letting his girls down.
It doesn't help that he is not given access by most recent exgf to his youngest daughter even though he is still paying the mortgage on their home and she says some very nasty things to him regarding his commitment to their child (can't assume too much as I only have his side of the story but I do know her and she is not pleasant or rational by a long shot, her own mother agrees with that).
Anyway, I was going to give him a fathers day card from me just to say I think he's wonderful and couldn't ask for a better dad for our dd but I'm afraid my dp will flip. He's really good with the whole thing and in fact they have socialised without me in the past so they get on great but is sending a sentimental card crossing the line?
I love my dp and respect him and wouldn't want to belittle him in any way but my dd's dad is a good friend who needs cheering up at the minute. Torn
Any advice?