What is the worst text you've sent in a relationship that is breaking down?

[Hidinginthebath]

I reached my zenith last night with this drunken passage of spite:

'I fucking hate you for doing this. You can't just decide you don't love someone and then not tell them and make them feel and look like a sad disgusting twat. I wish I'd picked him over you.'

I really regret sending it now because soon to be ex DP just seemed to hate me even more. Understandably. Please help me feel less like I'm a lost alone dick with your offerings?

God much much worse! If that’s how you feel then that’s how you feel.
We all lash out, not a lot you can do about it now.
But if it’s making you feel like shit then don’t send anything else.

I live with him so I sent it from upstairs. We have spoken about it but have to come to a temporary truce until my house is ready. I feel bereft today that I can be that nasty.

I sent "you're a shit husband, you're shit in bed and you're a mean and horrible bully" to my stbexh! In my defense, all of that was true! I am not a nasty person at all, in fact I am too nice to people sometimes but he had pushed me to the absolute brink and I completely snapped. Don't feel bad. I have never been so nasty to someone before or since. But severe emotional pain can make you act in irrational ways.

Not quite the same thing...but last year I heard from an ex from years ago saying he wanted to have babies with me. And wanted to visit. I said what, to have babies? He said yes.

So I felt angry and sent him a text saying he was a sex pest and to fuck off forever.

Haven't heard back yet...

@Hidinginthebath I don't think that's that bad?

Just have a nice evening and relax

I agree that text is not nasty at all. Nasty to me means malicious, and that's not how it reads.

Women are conditioned to be 'nice' ie compliant and that often holds us back from saying what we feel and getting what we want. Men are conditioned to hold back their feelings and just go for the jugular so they get what they want.

I'm all for both sexes just being honest and letting it all out!

That's not really nasty.

Stbexh found out I had got with Dp and called me a whore, as we were still married. Which was laughable since he had already moved in with his new girlfriend.

On the text I told him he was o it upset because he suffered from short man syndrome (true) and acted like a boy. Then told him he had a small dick and was only upset because Dp looked, acted and fucked like a real man.

Tbh having only slept with 2 people and being an adult I realise that all men are real men and I have no idea if tall men fuck differently

But I knew it would hurt him. His new girlfriend got involved and tried telling me he had the biggest dick she had ever seen and she was more than happy. I sent her my sympathy since stbexh was the biggest dick she had ever had. Then told her to fuck off and not contact me again.

It was an horrendous few days. I shouldn't have lowered myself to their standards. But I did. What can you do? Just try to not to best time

I’ve actually started doing this more. I don’t let the users and ghosters go quietly. I agree that women are conditioned to be compliant and some men really take advantage of this, never expecting us to push back. Often they call me moody/unstable etc when I do push back and say how I feel (because no woman can ever be justifiably annoyed/angry/upset, right?!) but their reaction just shows me that I’m dealing with a misogynistic arsehole and I’m well rid.

"so you're leaving me for a guy with a big house a flash car? Didn't know you were a whore"

Words to that effect I was slightly pissed off at the time. 5 year relationship, I found out she was sleeping with a guy 20 years older than her who just happened to have all the things she wanted in life, house, car, cash etc.

“I am so bored of this shit”. And then blocked and moved on.

It was the 'I wish I'd picked him over you' that was the nasty bit as he's always had an issue with my ex who fought pretty dirty when he realised he'd lost me. He always worried that deep down I thought I picked the wrong guy nowimthinkingidid

He has been a shit though. He's completely checked out and realised that he doesn't want to live with me or like me very much after all but he's too chicken to admit it because he always has to maintain his 'I'm one of the good guys' shit. 3 years down the line and he doesn't respect me enough to tell me the truth. I feel so shit about myself because of it.

He worried because he knew he wasn't good enough. He probably knew he was the wrong guy and just didn't care.

I once tried the 'I'm not in the right place' etc but he pushed and pushed.. So I listed everything I didn't like about him-didn't hear from him again from his hairy toes to his too long fingernails, to his snot, to his voice and smell...........

Way worse. Many times. A long time ago.

Just try to resist the urge next time because they've already hurt you if you're at that stage and you don't need to feel guilty on top of everything else.

I accidentally picked up And gjanced at someone’s texts or emails to their partner on a communal office copier last week, when I was waiting for something to print, pages and pages of ranting between them OP that make yours look like pure driven snow . I think the worst thing I have said on text ever is ‘you are a lying c**t’

None of this makes any sense...