My fiancé left me 7weeks after miscarriage

[Cathy1503]

I broke up with my fiance when I was 10weeks of pregnancy . I didn't tell him when we're still together but i was tried how to explain it to him but when I was need sometimes to think suddenly we brokeup. And after that I told him that I'm pregnant. And he doesn't believe me that I'm pregnant and he asked to prove it and I proved it.after that all his friends knew about this story but they just judged me that I'm just a liar and only used the pregnancy for make him back to me. This really broke me into a pieces. After a week he wants to talked with me and we good again like before he told me he love me and he really showed that he cares about me and the baby. But after i lost the baby (I had miscarriage) he easily said "I lost my love to you since we brokeup and I feel you just used me to get me back to you"he said the pregnancy is just a "trick" to make him come back to me.I was really mad and sad like I can't believe he could say like that to me. He's really nice person that I ever know. But....why he changed that fast like totally different person.

He is not a nice person!

Run, don't look back.

Have you broken up before?

I don't think sounds like a nasty person. I think it sounds like you dumped him, regretted it and wanted him back. He didn't believe you were of, but when you confirmed you were he decided to try and move past you dumping him for the baby.

Now there is no baby and the grief you both feel from losing the baby has made him realise he can't. Lots of people give relationships another go because there's kids or a baby on the way.

Please concentrate on you and recovering from your loss.

Hi notacluewhatthisis, he bumped me before he found out that I was pregnant. And we're on LDR i live in somewhere Asia and he live in somewhere Europe. And we had sex many times without protection when I was there. And when I came back i just realized that I'm pregnant. We planned to marry next year and I came there for visited his family and talked about the marriage. I always keep this relationship even its hard bc the distance is really far away. We're dating almost 2 years and we never have a big problem like this before

He sounds like a asshole.
You live on different continents.
Please let this one go.
He is not worth your time or thoughts.

I’m sorry for your miscarriage. He’s been a bit insensitive but really it just sounds like a relationship which is over and not bringing either of you any happiness, which you need to begin moving on from. You broke up. You then told him you were pregnant - which is, to be honest, a reasonably common storyline when a woman wants to draw a man into getting back together - and then miscarried once this had happened. Yes, in an ideal world he’d believe you and be kind and supportive; but even I know enough women who have lied about being pregnant to pressurise an ex into trying again to understand why he might be suspicious.

Delete his contact details from your phone. Block him on phone and social media. Draw a line under this. Be strong. Move forward. You’ll find something better.

And when he knew I was pregnant he told his parents his brother and his friends to blocked me on social media. His friends knew that I'm pregnant and judged me,they said the pregnancy is a trick,they said that probably I was pregnant not with his baby(this one it's stupid judgment,bc they'll knew when I was there everytime my bf went to work I just stayed at his room and sometimes he forgot to give the key for me so I stuck in his flat and his roommate also knows that my ex forgot to give the key to me.i never go out from his flat every time he went to work(he went to work once every week) so everytime he's free I'm with him everyday.and all his friends know me and it was really nice to met them I thought they're really nice friends bc when I was there his friends really nice to me. But when I was pregnant they just judged me and blocked me .before they ask me or talk with me to hear the real story .

He was mad and ignored me a couple of days after I told him the truth. (He said he didn't reply why text bc he needed time to think). And after that he wants to talked with me and he told me he wanted to take responsibility. But he said its hard to start the relationship again cuz I lie to him( it's about I didn't tell him directly when I was got pregnant). I didn't tell him directly to him about the pregnancy bc I was needed time to think how to tell him about the pregnancy. I feel that I never say lie to him. And it's also hard to find a good time to talk about it bc everytime I woke up he still sleeping and when I'm at uni he should prepare for his work and when I'm finished with my uni he still at work when I sleep he just go back home.

Have zero to do with him. Walk away from this relationship.

Bullet dodged, op. This guy isn't who you thought he was, he's a dick. Stop contact with him and his mates.

Why were you having unprotected sex, are you in a good position to bring up a child on your own? Was there some part of you trying to bring the relationship to a head?

His friends don't need to hear your side. They are his friends. They will be there for him and support him.

You broke up with him and likely hurt him. You knew you were pregnant when you split up and then waited even longer to tell him. I can see why he might have doubts.

The relationship is over and it's probably for the best. You need to take time for yourself.

Your relationship was over before he even knew you were pregnant.

He tried when you told him you were however now you have unfortunately lost the baby he has called time on it.

He hasn't done anything wrong in ending the relationship. If he doesn't want to be with you that is fair enough.

He may have gone about it nastily however best to walk away head high, heal yourself and move on.