Flirting

[Shelley18]

Would it bother you if your Husband/Boyfriend were to flirt in front of you . ..

Unless he’s been flirting with MNHQ you might want to move that thread, OP.

It’s a twatty thing to do though, and yes, it would bother me.

What would you define between banter and flirting then ?

It’s a fine line, but if something bothers you then that’s what matters.

I’ll report the thread for you.

Hi there OP,

We hope you don't mind, we're going to move this to Relationships now - we think you'd get much more useful replies there.

My DP exhibits flirty behaviour with anyone and everyone, it's 100% just his nature as I have known him since I was 15 he has always been like this! Doesn't bother me really as he never takes it to far but I could see why it bothers some people....

Depends...

Some people are naturally friendly, smiley and chatty which can be construed as flirtatious.

Some people ARE flirtatious but mean nothing by it.

Some people ARE flirtatious and also somewhat manipulative with it.

I'd say if it bothers you, that's enough.

If something bothers you, mention it in a light, semi-jokey way, that you found it unpleasant.

If it happens again, put on the serious face, and ask kindly, politely and firmly for them to stop doing it.

If it happens again after that, depends on your relationship. Anything from a final warning, to walking out, to a more concrete demonstration of your anger.

Past the third incident I'd be thinking of leaving. Either you're not fundamentally compatible, or your DP doesn't care enough about you to moderate their behaviour.

Can you provide more information?

He's just incredibly flirty with women . Some he messages though text and messenger . Is very on edge when his phone goes off . One of them he has pictures on his phone off her . And constant conments at each other when in the pub . I basically don't trust him perhaps I'm just trying to get some feedback to reassure myself that I'm not over reacting .

No your not over reacting, that's not just banter flirting, that's dodgy. Sorry OP obviously not what you want to hear. I would be happy with my dp flirting with anyone.

That sounds like more than flirting tbh.

My DP holds eye contact with people for much longer than I’d find comfortable - puts on his charm and jokes with waiting/shop staff etc which I would see as flirty if I didnt see him do the same with men!

Messaging other women and having photos of them on his phone is just totally disrespectful to you. Borderline cheating rather than flirting.

Thanks ladies for your comments. I just feel in a sad place with him at the moment. I've even got myself into a place where I'm doubting if him and I will ever work out. I don't even feel loved by him anymore . Every time we spend any time together he's either grabbing my chest area or my private area rubbing he's self up against me or trying to ram he's tongue down my throat . He seems to have lost the ability to cuddle or just hold me . I feel so cheap and nasty despite him always saying that he's expressing his love towards me I don't get that feeling . Sorry if I have sounded crude in my expressing .

I am a naturally very flirtatious person. I'm tactical, really enjoy banter and really enjoy getting to know people. However, there is a line. I'm married with DC so the line is big, thick and black.

Online messages and pictures spell trouble and are not just flirtatious. What you describe is over the line.

I find knowing if I didn't want my DH to know then it's wrong.

Every time we spend any time together he's either grabbing my chest area or my private area rubbing he's self up against me or trying to ram he's tongue down my throat . He seems to have lost the ability to cuddle or just hold me . I feel so cheap and nasty despite him always saying that he's expressing his love towards me I don't get that feeling.

He sounds like a prick tbh. Also, having pics of another woman on his phone is really fucking out of line. That would be a huge massive red warning flag and klaxon to me.

But there friends so is that still a red flag.

Sorry OP, but it already sounds as if you know it's not going to work. If he doesn't make you feel good about yourself at what sounds like quite an early stage of your relationship, then he isn't for you. Good luck.

Yes shelly it is a red flag, np matter wether they are "friends" or not.