Selfish dp or is it me overreacting? Please Help!

[Peanut17]

Hello ladies! I’m new here so bare with me

Sorry in advance for the long post
So.. I’ve been with my dp 3 years, have a beautiful 16 month old and have recently found out I’m pregnant again. He goes to work and finishes usually around 2pm, when he gets home he makes remarks about the house not being tidy or dishes from lunch not being done yet. He’s been going to the pub everyday for a few weeks after work and I’ve asked him to help me as I’m struggling with sickness and feeling so tired! I’ve asked him to come straight home on the days I’m feeling really awful but he’s told me I’m ‘taking away his rights as a man’ and that I’m controlling him. Is it my hormones or is he being an idiot?
I’m totally fed up with him constantly putting me down and making little comments, he’s always on at me (daily) for not being up for sex which is making me really resent him and we barely talk at the moment! I have tried to talk to him but he gets defensive and starts and argument. I can’t win!
Opinions would be amazing as I’m going out of my head! Thank you

the only problem in his eyes is that we don’t get jiggy enough

It gets worse and worse - perhaps if he pulled his weight you just might feel more jiggy, but there is something deeply unattractive about a pouting manchild.

he’s happy for me to stay at home to bring up our kids and would rather I did that for a couple more years

Yes because he thinks it entitled him to a clean house/cooked meals/ no responsibility for children at all. Plus - and this is the kicker for him - he gets to tell you he is the one working hard and it is his money (if he hasn't said this yet, watch out - it is only a matter of time)

The constant sex thing is a separate unattractive quality.

How do these perfectly awful, unattractive men find women? And yet they do.