Handmaids tale.. would this worry you

[Issy777]

Started to watch Series 1 of Handmaids Tale. Studied the book for my Alevels and finally got round to watching it with DP.
(for those of you that don't know of it, please google)

Anyway, dp does have a tendency of being chauvinistic, met him when he was like this and just got used to it
But some of the comments he's been coming out with whilst watching it have got me really thinking,

Basically he has said when watching it "this is how it should be" (women just being used for fertility and babies)
I took at his humour first but when the parts of women being sluts comments made on the prog he was agreeing he's done this before in the past but whilst watching this seemed way more serious/passionate
I'm annoyed moreso cos we have two dd's and thinking of how it can impact on them...

If your partner said these kind of comments whilst watching it how would you react?, would you take it seriously?

He wouldn't have got past those early dates, tbh.

I guess I’m unusual because I believe you work together in relationships, you better each other. It’s not a “pump & dump” exercise

Working together in relationships only works when both side genuinely want to work at it. It's rather difficult to work at it when one side is a misogynist arsehole, so given the comments this OH made, the OP should be talking to him to find out if he actually meant them.

Because if he meant them, they're a red flag for further relationship issues, and these days I wouldn't be hanging around to find out. I left someone who was abusive after a long relationship, and if I'd had the knowledge to have picked up on these sort of comments much earlier, the DCs and I would have been out much sooner.

Typical Aloha Male and a chauvinist was a choice.

Sort of depressed at a few recent posts were woman are accepting misogyny and patriarchy as long as it does not impact on their home life.

Reading or watching THT won’t help an young woman who sees her mother acting like Serena Joy.

"Woman get in the kitchen" = over reaction (assuming "banter" though not humour to my taste) "this culture of rape and baby farming is how it should be" (ok paraphrasing) = take you to the cleaners. Although like others have said I doubt a relationship with a man like that would have gone far for me anyway.

My exh was a mysogynist and was turned on my depictions of vulnerable women in media. It wasn't his only terrible quality. My own opinin OP is that you have a powerful role in your daughter's lives, to show them how to "woman" well.

This would really disturb me. I watched both seasons with my DH. I was more affected by it emotionally (it kept me up at night and I couldn’t watch more than one episode at a time) than he was, but he did still find it harrowing. I would seriously be questioning my relationship and his ability to be a decent parent if he thought any of it was normal or “how it should be”.

Wait a minute - you have a 11 year old DD with this 'man' and he's making comments about women being sluts and thinks it's a good idea to enslave them as baby-making machines??

Words fail me.

This man is not a "typical alpha male".

My DH is a very senior, extremely well remunerated individual in his industry. He is also a staunch feminist who, at my request, is going part time next year for a couple of years to allow me to focus on my career.

My brother and father are also very well-paid senior execs, and are both feminists who are committed to advancing women's rights.

THEY are alpha males. Your H is not.

Havelock

And what brilliant role models you all are to your child/children! Misogyny breeds misogyny.

Someone like that wouldn't be my partner in the first place.

And the poisonous idea that 'alpha males' think like this is really worrisome as well. DH is a fit, strong, manly, professional, well-paying job, martial artist. He would rather live in a world where DD makes her own choices about her own body.

As a side point, an 11 year old watching a drama that traumatises adults , encouraged by a teacher. To counterbalance a chauvinist father.

I think I am supposed to froth. Do we have a frothing emoji.

Lemon good point lol, we did THT at school but was at A level.