CAn I get back together with my ex husband after 16 months apart?

[AlwaysSunshine81]

I have another post going on on relationships too. I think current bf is shadowing my feeling about my ex. We’ve been split corn 16 months. HE was lazy and told lies and finally after 5 yrs I’d has enough. His mum was diagnosed with lung cancer and he left the house. We still get on. I miss him. His mum has just passed away and I feel so guilty I’m not there for him and just want to be with him BUT I don’t think think he has really changed.
My head feels like a mess at the moment. I feel I need some time on my own just me and the kids

Do that then, be single.

Going back to your ex sounds like a terrible plan.

Had he been a decent partner/father he would have your support now as his partner: he doesn’t because of his choices and behaviour. Guilt not rational.

Went back to my ex after a few years.

Key thing is - we had both changed.

No point going back if nothing has changed.... the result will be the same.