After some advice....

[Rebornagain]

I have met a lady on an OLD site who I cant stop thinking about.

We have texted chatted everyday since the 5th September. We met up for a drink which I felt went well and she did say she would like to do it again but is busy for a few weeks.

Since the date we are still in daily contact and we appear to get on well. Texting chatting on a daily basis telling me what she is doing etc but hasnt commited to the second date yet.

Should I be concerned that she nots into me.

Why don't you just ask her if she's interested in seeing you again? Obviously, you're an adult, so communicate like one. What have you got to lose? If she isn't interested, isn't it better to find out so you can stop wasting your time?

she did say she would like to do it again but is busy for a few weeks.

This means "thanks but no thanks."

When did you meet up?

If she was keen I’d think she would have made time sooner - sounds like a polite brush off, but if she’s genuinely busy, ask her to do something specific on a weekend in November and see what she says.

With the messages, who instigates? Does she reply in detail and with questions that push for more chat? Or does she answer you but without probing for anything more?

Do you feel like she’s actually interested or are you only seeing it from your own side, that you’re interested in her?

She could just be playing it cool, but if she’s trying to keep in contact with you just as a friend you’re better off knowing now, rather than her stringing you along.

Propose an actual date, cool off with the messages, give her the space to come to you.

It's been 8 weeks. Is she away or lives far away or something? Might make more sense if so. Otherwise if she was into you I would expect her to suggest a date (even if it's a few weeks away if she's busy). Have you suggested a date? Are you both waiting for the other to ask?

Apologies realise you didn't meet 8 weeks ago. How long has it been? Do you know what she's looking for?

Ask her on a date again. If she puts you off again, then she's enjoying the chatting but it isn't going anywhere further.

Oh yes, hang on, how long ago was the real life date?

Thanks for the feedback.

We went for our date Mid October.

I know she has been genuinely busy these last couple of weeks because she tells me what she is doing (obviously could be lying but I wouldn't of thought so).

We went for our date Mid October.

She has said if she didnt want to talk to me should would block me.

She does contact me if we have not text for over a couple of hours so I dont know whether this means anything. It just feels weird. The other day she got upset because she thought I was logged into the OLD site (was reading our conversation).

My head is spinning. As we have been talking for nearly 2 months so you kind of build a relationship up.

She tells me when her DS has done something well or what she is up to .

It wasn't long ago then! Tell her that you would love to see her again and ask her if she would like to meet up and if so to let you know when she's free.

Well, she said she was busy for a few weeks, so it's only been a fortnight. Probably keep chatting, but if she doesn't want to meet up in another fortnight, call it a day.

I'm not sure you should put your life on hold in the meantime. I'm surprised she got upset about you being on the dating site after only one drinks date? Bit soon to expect exclusivity, especially if you've no concrete plans to see each other again.