Is this even a relationship? Am I expecting too much?

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My marriage ended last year and I have been doing OLD since January. I met someone in July and we are now technically in a relationship. Except it doesn't feel like it.

For a while we saw each other twice a week. Once on a week night when he would come over to mine and on a weekend evening when we'd go out. A few weeks ago when I asked if he was coming over midweek he said it was making him feel pressured. Since then I've backed off and we've only been seeing each other on a weekend evening, we'll go out, he'll stay over and then leave in the morning. He's already gone this morning.

We do text every day, but maybe only once or twice.

I like him a lot. I have children and was happy with the two evenings a week and don't feel like that was expecting too much. But is it? I'm not sure if I should just accept he's not that into me. I've tried talking about it with him, but he's not a big fan of conversations about feelings and because I see him only once a week I don't want every time to be asking him about what he wants.

I think I need some outside perspective, my gut feeling is he likes me, but maybe just not as much as I need/want him to.

Reading with interest. I met someone thru OLD in Sept and we've had about ten dates... Seeing each other round my kids, always sleepovers - Altho there is the occasional cuppa fare when I have an hour near his house for a kid activity - and have spent 3 whole weekends together. We go to both houses, cook and shop together at the weekends, go out for cinema movies etc. We always agree the day for the next date when we part but not the details and he is very non texty when we are apart....3-4 texts in 4 days, one just to arrange details of date wld be typical.

He's a lifelong batchelor (54) with limited relationship experience and no kids but has a busy life and sees friends who are couples with kids regularly. We've not met either 's friends or family yet but he's told a couple of friends about me and he's very content in his life and with his routine (self employed).

Have had no are we exclusive chat or anything. I know I need to have no expectations and take it slow but I'd really like to feel excited about having met him.... At the mo I mainly feel unsure if its going anywhere... Sigh. All soTricky.

Hi OP, I,would listen to your own feelings. If it doesn't feel right then I would date other guys. I understand what you are feeling and if he doesn't feel it too I would suggest concentrating on your hobbies and dating elsewhere. A relationship should feel right. Hang in there and be strong